Just Another Day

Good morning everyone,

After spending a great festive weekend with family, friends, and a good amount of turkey and roast vegetables, I thought I’d extend my wishes to the rest of the world on this much-needed rainy day in southern Spain.

While we celebrate many landmark achievements worldwide, a lot of us have gone through trying times and even lost loved ones in many of the year’s events, and as 2005 draws to a close we all take the time to think over what we have accomplished, where we are in our lives and what we would like to see happen in the coming months. We should aspire to having food on our tables, drinkable water, a decent roof over our head, good health, the most basic necessities of life. We should look forward to an education, the right to make our own free choices, and the right to even exist. We should be grateful if we have all of these, and try not to worry about the other material things that often cause us great stress and insecurity. Everything else, as we all know deep inside, is fleeting. Often we wrap ourselves up in material elements that take over our lives, drive us in directions we really don’t need to go, forgetting that we are all we need. So when you’ve put all this year’s presents aside, remember that life itself is the greatest gift you have, even if you’re going through a difficult time and can’t see through it.


But this feeling should be there every day of our lives, not just on selected dates because “everyone else is doing it and it’s the Christmas spirit.” After all, not everyone celebrates Christmas, not everyone even knows what it is…

We should call it the Human spirit, because that is our common denominator. And it should be there every day of the year, festive or not.

Happy Monday.

Uninvited

I guess it’s time to do the yearly review thing. Well, to begin with, work has gone quite well, with its inevitable ups and downs, but the learning curve has started to move a little further so I guess in all it’s been good. I’ve established new working relationships, assessed previous ones, made my own conclusions and set new goals for myself. Now I just need to act upon them… *ponders*

I have travelled to new places, visited old ones that keep calling me back, discovered new things about myself and about others. Been through situations which I feel have made me stronger or opened my eyes to aspects I hadn’t noticed before. I have been inspired beyond words by complete strangers and friends alike, all to whom I am grateful for this.

I’ve made new friends, some real and some ‘virtual’ which I may or may not meet in person, but look forward to the possibility of doing so at some point.

*pauses* I am, however, still confused at this whole human interaction business. Be it in person or online, we meet, we establish some form of communication, we bounce off each other, it builds into some sort of relationship (friendship or other). Often we talk every day, and we even discuss being ‘angry’ or ‘upset’ with each other over something – establish that if ever we feel that way we should talk about it. Great! Now, here’s the catch – at some point a lot of those conversations stop dead almost overnight. Whether this is because something is happening in the life of the other person that they don’t wish to share with us (even though previously they may have disclosed a fair amount of intimacies) or whether it is just the natural erosion of the initial spark, or whether suddenly it’s all too much for them, I really don’t know. Nobody’s told me yet (I do know how I have felt overwhelmed at times though). At that point, while you continue with your daily routines and life in general, you also make a mental assessment of what has been discussed of late, whether there may have been anything you said or did to offend or make them feel uncomfortable. You can’t think of anything so you keep a low profile, hoping to give that other person enough space so as to emerge at some point and either tell you what was going on or establish that the issue did not lie with you. The sense of confusion is inevitable. You want to say something but you don’t want to impose… Are we cool or are we not? And if not, why not?

In this day and age, we have so many means of communicating available now that really the only thing holding us back from doing so is our very self.

What I will say to those who’ve gone quiet, whether you’re just down the road or a thousand miles away… you may be busy or you may be at odds, but don’t let the fact that someone is thinking about you scare you. Most people mean no harm and do genuinely want you to be happy, with no hidden agendas. Allow yourselves to be surprised. And I hope you’re keeping well.


So Merry Christmas, Happy Hannukah or just happy days in general. After all, happiness isn’t just for one day of the year… Take care.


Uninvited

Like anyone would be
I am flattered by your fascination with me
Like any hot-blooded woman
I have simply wanted an object to crave
But you, you’re not allowed
You’re uninvited

An unfortunate slight
Must be strangely exciting
To watch the stoic squirm
Must be somewhat heartening
To watch shepherd need shepherd
But you you’re not allowed
You’re uninvited
An unfortunate slight

Like any uncharted territory
I must seem greatly intriguing
You speak of my love like
You have experienced love like mine before
But this is not allowed
You’re uninvited
An unfortunate slight

I don’t think you unworthy
I need a moment to deliberate

Written by Alanis Morissette