I grew up feeling what a delicate creature communication could be, and it created some of my own limitations for some time.
Only recently have the subtleties of it become clearer. We all have our ways of expressing how we think, how we feel, what our needs are, and how we can come together to make things happen.
Some people spend a lifetime bottling things up and holding themselves back, never finding a healthy way to tell others what’s important to them. It can become a vicious cycle for them – surfacing briefly and then diving back under water to be uncomfortably numb again.
Some people get angry and blame their troubles on others, like a raging bull in a china shop – when all that was needed was a more gentle approach to find a mutually beneficial solution.
We’ve grown up in different family dynamics, cultures and educational systems – and instead of using that as an excuse, I feel it’s our choice as individuals to undo any of the blockages we may have been ‘taught’ through these experiences. The others were simply doing what they knew best at the time. And the time for you to do and be your best is now, wouldn’t you agree?
If you’ve felt ‘stuck’ expressing yourself, then it’s probably a wonderful sign for you to step up and change how you communicate so you can have a more fulfilling life, because the best way for others to learn who you are, is if you start sharing it with them.
It’s like learning to walk – one step at a time, no pressure. Gauging the responses you get, becoming comfortable asking questions, trusting that there will be no judgement, and seeing how easy it all becomes.
Be patient with yourself, and those who are in tune will be patient with you.
To create a healthy, balanced safe zone so we can be who we are, there is a subtle dance in which it’s up to both of us to keep our eyes, ears and the doors of communication open.
And once you break (or walk) through your own walls, asking and sharing becomes so much more rewarding. The load lightens up as you express yourself more openly with those who have your best intentions at heart.
So you can start talking, because I’m listening (and I’ve got the cookies and milk ready)…
And thank you for reading me.