I was in conversation with a dear friend and colleague, who suggested I write about being “your number one client.” This topic has been on my mind for a while, so I took this as a sign to finally write about it, because it goes beyond business.
I really appreciate this friend because he is so curious about life. Those are the kinds of conversations I love to have, “What would make your life extraordinary? What makes you YOU? How do you see yourself in this world?”
For a time in my life, I thought I had to do put everyone and everything else first, before I could fulfill my big dreams. It was linear and slow, and I often wondered when I would get to me.
A lot of people “see” themselves “last.”
They place more value on their clients’ priorities than they do on their own, and then they wonder why their dreams gather dust on a shelf… JK Rowling toted her Harry Potter stories around Europe in a box – it wasn’t until she hit the lowest of lows that her sister read it and said, “If this is what you really want to do, then do it.” I know another writer who travelled the world with her own manuscript for years until she felt the pang of not creating and asked herself, “Is it time to honour MY dreams?” The answer was “Yes,” and that writer is me.
I’m sure you know this great quote from Zig Ziglar:
You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want.
It makes perfect sense, yet, we all know the prompts on the plane to put our oxygen mask on first before helping others.
Which one feels better for you?
Some people think they have to sacrifice and wait for their dreams to happen, whilst they put more energy into helping others achieve theirs first. They often feel guilty when they start to move in the direction of their dreams, wondering, “What will people think?”
Answer: Who cares?? They’re your dreams!
When you actively breathe life into your personal aspirations, you breathe life into what you do for others. This way, everybody gains.
Start with what feels good to you, and keep moving in that direction. (click to tweet)
I am able to serve my coaching and web clients, because I actively participate in my own future, which includes writing more books and growing Niki Owl’s enterprise. I do something for each of my personal interests every day. Then I bring my insights back to my clients in ways that they can relate to in their own aspirations. It’s a beautiful cycle of constant growth.
This is generosity at its best – generosity of self for fulfillment of self and others.
This is why we grow companies and co-create with one another, to leverage ourselves and fulfill our dreams whilst serving others in the fulfillment of their dreams.
This is abundant thinking.
Before you pull the “I don’t have time for it all” card, let me tell you this:
Time is what YOU make of it.
Time management is purely state management. So if you’re on point managing your emotional state, you’re well on your way to take care of how and when you show up for the world on a daily basis. It’s all about the priorities you set in your life, starting with YOU. This is where your biggest results come from.
When we place value on ourselves, our whole life transforms. We are crystal clear on who and where to invest our time and energy. We lovingly give space to the rest. This absolutely translates into higher income because we engage with people who value themselves too; people who understand energy exchange of equal value.
I know for me, valuing myself means working with a coach to help me stay focused on being my best me and the fulfillment of my dreams.
This level of commitment breathes life into the lifestyle you wish to experience, including the material aspects. It starts by you valuing you above all of that, and investing in you.
If you place more value on things and status quo than you place on your Self, you completely disrespect your dreams.
Working from the outside in is temporary and limiting.
Working from the inside out is sustainable and exponential.
Which do you prefer?
I know the best job is an inside job, starting with my personal commitment to me, to show up fully in my life, business, relationships and what I create.
I will go the distance, literally, even if it means walking home in the rain that started to pour after taking care of sending a payment to my coach yesterday. And you know what? I loved it. The fresh smell of the earth when it rains is so unique. The skies were dark on one side and light on the other as the storm moved along its path. And water means abundance. So let it rain.
I’m not saying you need a coach, but I know what investing in me does for me and the life I am creating. As my coach likes to remind me, “What good is a team without a coach?”
If you’ve been procrastinating on follow-through, telling yourself stories on why something hasn’t happened yet, then my question is, “What good is a dream without a coach?”
Start with your commitment to You,