Duende {The Magic in You}

In Spain, we often use this word to describe an artist’s magical ability to transport us into another realm… picture the journey a classical guitarist takes you on as you listen to the enchanting melodies that he conjures up… they may come inspired by the scent of dama de noche on a late summer night, the other-worldly shade of blue he witnesses when the sun looks you in the eyes, or from the memories of lifetimes past in Moorish gardens when declarations of intent were sent by a messenger on a horse.

Duende… Magical. Mystical. Mesmerising.

Duende… When somebody sings a song that transports you to a whole new world of possibilities…

When you meet someone and think, “There’s something about you…” and you haven’t consciously put your finger on it quite yet…

When you create something so pure and so honest, you cry with joy because you have no idea where the inspiration came from, and you want your Muse to stay forever.

It’s a feeling… something intangible, je ne sais quoi, there-is-no-word-just-a-curious-feeling kind of feeling.

It’s out of the box. An unknown that you might fear until enough curiosity has grown inside of you to reach a flipping point, allowing the unknown to be known, and the unseen to be seen.

And suddenly, you wake up to your own duende.

It was never lost, you just stopped looking. And then you easily recognise it in the others around you. You see them for who they really are, and you breathe a sigh of relief.

“I’m not alone anymore.”

No, you’re not. And you never were, my dear friend.

Like the permeating scent of that night flower, wrapping you in its gentle confidence, whispering in your ear as you sleep, reminding you that tomorrow your dreams will still wake up with you, stronger than before.

More colourful. More vibrant. More committed. More in tune with you.

Trusting that what is meant to be, already is, simply because you dreamed it, and you are aware now that it’s up to you to make it happen.

Genius, You.

Gone are the days when you nervously took two steps forward and one step back with no compass other than hope. Now you can take confident consecutive steps to meet what you most desire. One by one, day after day, watching it all come together so nicely because the road is easier to navigate now that you trust your inner guidance. It’s showing you the way and new ways of doing things.

Now that’s what we call ‘magic’.

Asking becomes easy. Sharing becomes easy. Allowing becomes easy.

Being becomes easy.

Ease becomes easy.

No matter how high the walls of a garden, no flower, no matter how seemingly delicate, or whatever obstacles in its path, ever stopped from making its way to the top and finding the sunshine it knew was always there. Because it’s been there since before you opened your eyes to it. And in those silent moments, when you felt nothing was happening, the flower grew stronger roots to support its journey into this new realm of amazement.

And you’re amazing.

It was never soul seeking, it is soul seeing.

{Nice to see you…}

Duende… The spirit that dreams are made of, and how they come to be real.

Trust yours now.  It will bring you closer to those who are already sharing theirs with you. And when you feel even the slightest flurry in your soul, embrace it. It’s telling you that what you’re seeking is already seeking you, already found you. And you’ve known this all along… haven’t you?

Turn a new page in this book you kept looking at and thought you’d never pick up, let alone read. And then all the stories it tells you make sense now.

The rest is still unwritten… And that’s okay, because you don’t need to know or do everything right now. The fear is gone and you’re so intrigued by what’s next that you have no time for doubts or confusion anymore, do you?

Your Master Plan is made up of smaller plans that come together as key elements for your highest intentions. And as you consciously allow them into your existence, your inspiration touches others around you too.

Duende… Magical. Mystical. Mesmerising. Go You…

Do You Fight for Love, or Do You Foster It?

I used to think of love much the same way as Bryan Adams sang about it, “Everything I do, I do it for you.”

After a while, I realised that wasn’t very healthy, especially where reciprocity was lacking.

Taking time to actively delve into how my life experiences so far have shaped me, and how I show up now and what I value (my ‘homework’ as I call it), it’s opened my eyes to a lot of misconstrued and outdated concepts.

I’ve come to see that it’s more about doing things because I’m inspired by that person, which is the key to maintaining my personal balance and creating a healthy synergy. Of course, the rest of Bryan Adams’ lyrics still apply…

Yet, the old stories of heroes and villains and damsels in distress are long gone. And memories of past ‘missed takes‘ can easily be healed now, the future given fresh new meaning and direction.

Fighting implies pain, hardship, struggle, possibly someone’s disapproval, and other uncomfortable things. It puts an unnecessary strain on the overall accomplishment of the goal at heart, and generally pushes it farther away because the focus is on the fight, not the love itself.

There’s no need to explain to others, no need to justify. It’s not what they think, it’s what you know. Allow yourself to be within a whole new world.

So, no, it’s not about saving anyone or fighting for love anymore. You can put the sword & shield aside now, you won’t be needing them (and the horse will live longer too).

Instead, you can feel that initial spark gain impetus and become a warm, comforting fire. That little nervous shake you keep getting? It’s just the fire heating up and shaking off old fears and doubts.

The real path to love is, purely, and simply, love itself. And of course, it starts within each one of us – taking initiative to take care of ourselves, then expanding our self love to embrace and include another amazing human being.

It’s made up of qualities like attention, care, asking, learning, remembering, sharing, patience, romance, consideration, active support, humour, respect, the little things that make a big difference, keeping each other’s best interests in sight, taking time out of a busy schedule even if it’s just a few minutes to check in with one another, understanding each other’s need for space to do what you need to do, enjoying the moments together and trusting the spaces in between…

Whatever works for both of you, as long as you’re both communicating frequently and exploring the mutual curiosity. Because at the same time as we’re discovering new things about one another, we’re also discovering more about ourselves. And that’s a beautiful thing, isn’t it?

If you encounter adversity, criticism or skepticism from others, do you fall prey to it and look the other way, or do you quietly build your muscle of belief and keep advancing, boldly and with confidence, in the direction your heart is showing you?

If you encounter resistance in yourself, what is it that you’ve really been holding yourself back from, that you can let go of now and give yourself the opportunity to freely love and be loved?

Where there is real love, there is no judgement and no rejection, which makes cutting out the guess-work and expressing yourself so much easier.

“Does she tell you what she wants,
Can you give her what she needs?”*

Love is expansion, freedom. Someone who believes in you more than you might, and encourages you to live your dreams in ways you wouldn’t expect and without you asking. A natural desire for you to be, do and have what you envision, even if you haven’t figured it all out yet. Isn’t that a relief?

What if you allowed yourself to pleasantly surprise and be surprised more and more, every day?

And of course, you can dance around the fire any time you please.

So for me, it’s about fostering love. It feels so much better. And there’s magic in that.

Here’s to You, and thank you for the inspiration.

* Pretty Things – Take That