Why Should I Help You?

It was 1945, and WWII had just ended. A 9 year old boy, tucked away amidst the rubble of war-torn Vienna, watched as the Russian soldiers rolled into his home town with their tanks. All of a sudden, from behind, one of those soldiers hauled him out of his hiding place.

“Go home, it’s safe now,” he was told. And off the boy went to be with his grandparents.

The soldier could have ignored my dad and carried on checking the area for enemy soldiers, but he didn’t. He stopped to help.

At its simplest, this was an act of one stranger helping another stranger. There was no other exchange or expectation of one.

It was one human being extending his commitment to help another be well.

Now, whilst the story I just shared was based on extreme circumstances (and some people are still experiencing such battles) most of us are blessed with living in a safe environment. However, there are subtle battles that we all face.

These “battles” are the internal conflicts of wanting to experience our ideal life, with the people and things that we value. And for that, we also need support, because if left untended, this can still kill people (of any age and background) and destroy relationships, business, visions, etc.

As I continue my mission to help as many people create fulfillment in their lives (whatever that looks like to them), I encounter some skepticism from those who don’t quite know what to do with this offer to help. And that’s okay.

I reach out to help because it’s my moral obligation as someone who cares deeply that people liberate themselves, and experience fulfilled lives.

The truth is, I never know what someone needs when I reach out to them, nor where the conversations we have will go. Sometimes they lead to a direct relationship where I support them in creating their ideal life, and sometimes it’s simply connecting them with another person, or another resource to help them along. Either way, I’m happy to help because of the powerful ripple effect this causes.

What matters to me is that we engage. Because without that, we do not help each other move forward in life. This is how we improve circumstances all across the world. These are the best battles to win, because over time they wipe out the extreme ones that serve nobody.

I’m here to help people create the life and respect they deserve. That includes YOU.

So, what can I help you with?

The Problem with “One Day I’ll Do That”

I wrote this inspired by my reply to someone’s comment that, “Writing a novel is a dream at the back of my head, but maybe one day.”

It got me thinking about how we postpone our dreams and outcomes in life, and how we can change that.

Here’s an extended version of what I offered, which I’m sharing with you:

“One day” is not a day of the week. And “maybe” is noncommittal. Nothing right or wrong about that. However..

Whilst a dream or idea can come to us in a moment, the dream doesn’t just “happen” out of the blue.

Our primary task is to bring the dream to the forefront of our mind, find out what’s really important about it for us, get committed and then get working on it. We need to create it.

Publishing books was one of my childhood dreams but I never had any “plan” to get it done (I was thinking about it in the context of “One day I’ll do that…”). Until I started asking myself later on in life what I wanted to do with the rest of my life – and that dream popped up and said, “Pick me! Pick me!” So I listened, got clear on what kind of message I wanted to put out there, and got working on it. Like anything, it requires clarity, focus and dedication.

I couldn’t “do” anything about that dream until I actually got committed to it.

And once that first book was published, I realised there was more “work” to be done – promotion, distribution, evolution, ideas for more books… It’s a constant exercise in clarity, focus and dedication. And I’ll be honest, some days I fall off track with that (and so will you, and that’s okay as long as we get back on it). But when I remind myself what my whole life commitment is, then I’m able to do something on a daily basis to keep the dream nourished, growing, and planting more seeds of joy around the world. Because that’s my mission.

People wither and settle for mediocrity because they stop believing in their dreams, because nobody encourages them to make those dreams come to life (or they discourage them based on their own perceptions of their world or “What REAL life is.”).

That’s how postponing or delaying our outcomes starts, with this surreptitious “one day” trickster in our minds. This is how a lot of people live with regrets on what could have been, without ever giving it a chance to become.

I believe that every dream matters, and it’s up to each one of us to “do” something about our dreams, which is how we inspire others to help us in our endeavours – whether that’s a global vision, a new enterprise, an invention, a book, the ideal relationship, or whatever your dream life looks and feels like to you…

Please “do” whatever you need to let your dreams come to life, starting with clarity and commitment.

Your Relentless Dream Catcher,

Before You Go

By George, what a year.

It’s been quite the battle of the Forces, wouldn’t you agree?

And it’s easy to think the world has been turned on its head.

But I have to be really honest with you – I hugely disagree with the people who have written off 2016 as one of the worst years. I lost count of all the hashtags scorning 2016. To them I say, “YOU’RE ALIVE, DAMN IT. Have some appreciation for the fact that you got to wake up this morning and give life another go. There’s a reason why you got that golden opportunity, so make the best of it. For all our sakes.”

For me, it’s been one of my best years so far. Namely, because this time last year I had just come to the amazing realization that I’d met the woman I get to spend the rest of my life with. On the evening of December 31, 2015 I asked Heather if she’d go on a lifelong adventure with me. She said “Yes.” We’d only just met 13 days before. And that was the beginning of a dream come true for both of us…

Before we met, I had gone through many ordeals I never expected, all of which helped me grow into the person I am today. The person who could meet her match and embark on a lifelong adventure with. Someone who can love powerfully and speak from that place of KNOWING. Someone who cares to know herself deeply for the active realisation of her life’s purpose, and be a relentless dream catcher for others on their journey. So, for all the twists and turns that finally led me to this place, I am eternally grateful.

And yes, this year my co-pilot and I have experienced some challenges that allowed BOTH of us to grow stronger, together. It’s the powerful relationship I always wanted, and what I hope for anyone who is looking for their co-pilot with whom to navigate this adventure called Life.

What I know for sure is that now more than ever, I aim to make every day matter as much as possible. Not just for me, not just for her, but for the people we engage with. We’re all in this together, so let’s make the best of it.

To 2016 I say, “Thank you, you’ve been exceptional. You’ve given me more clarity on who I Am than any other year, and more energy to Be that powerful Creator.”

To you reading this – no more complaining about what’s “wrong” in the world. It’s high time to get focused on creating.

Your task is simple, though it may not always be easy. Take those dreams that are in your heart; breathe life into them, create them, inspire others to do the same for themselves, and repeat… because every dream matters.

Especially because we never really know when we’re going to “go”.

This year we’ve witnessed some of our legendary Creators leave our planet, and it’s probably the most powerful group of them to “go” in one year. Which is why it’s been so shocking to many people. Yet, we all come together in appreciation for the gifts they left behind… and THAT is the torch they’re leaving for US to pick up and carry on with. It’s incredibly powerful, because their presence speaks to so many of us. THIS IS OUR CALL TO ACTION. We’re being reminded of OUR Genius, and our inherent power to create a life worth celebrating, not just for ourselves but for the whole of humanity.

Yes, they’re big shoes to step into, but we CAN do it. Together.

Are you up for it?

Good. Then to get started, please make sure you LIVE as fully and LOVE as massively as you can, before yougo. BE somebody to love, and you’ll FIND somebody to love if you haven’t already.

Instead of falling into the mindset of doubt or complaint, dive into the mindset of creation. And if you need some help with that, reach out to the next person you know who lives and breathes creation.

Thank you for waking people up, 2016. It wasn’t all pretty, but it was much needed for them to remember their power.

And now, to our best year yet as Humanity,

This is Killing People and it HAS to Stop

I can’t tell you how many people I’ve spoken with over the years who felt they couldn’t have the life they wanted.

These people weren’t given the support or encouragement to act on their dreams. It started when they were kids, because someone they trusted with their life showed them how NOT to dream, how NOT to have a life that fills them with joy. Told them what they couldn’t have and shouldn’t do, more than what they could.

This kills dreams, which kills souls, which kills people.

It creates people who walk around like empty shells, not knowing who they are or why they’re here. They “give up” on life and wonder why everyone else can have certain things but not them. They secretly think they don’t belong here. They might go as far as creating the life they were told to, but they never really feel fulfilled because it’s not THEIR life.

Have you ever felt that way? And did you ever tell anyone?

There’s no shame in sharing this, in fact you must so you can clear the internal obstacles that are stopping you from believing that you CAN have the cake AND eat it.

Dreams are often steamrolled by people who are supposed to be our loving guardians, but not all of them are as equipped to encourage us as we’d like them to be. I’m so blessed and grateful that my parents gave me this kind of nourishment. They gave me permission to dream and act on those dreams. And it’s my mission to do the same for as many people as I can.

Take a look around you – if kids aren’t given the love, support and encouragement they need to grow into healthy, happy and fulfilled adults who feel they can have the life they dream of, then they grow up as non-believers of dreams and doubters of their true abilities. Those kids grow up to be adults who feel they’re not deserving of a beautiful life. It’s a very sad and painful existence.

It hurts my heart to see this in anyone. Especially when someone is so convinced they do not deserve a better life, because someone they looked to for guidance as a kid didn’t have the consciousness, capacity or caring to be present to their dreams.

This HAS to change. Will you help me?

Anyone can and must dream. It’s ACTING on a dream that makes the dream come to life though. Most people stop right before the action, because that’s when all the head chatter floods their minds and freezes them.

So, as members of a global family, it’s our duty as awakened, caring individuals to remind others of their greatness and their ability to create a life they deserve.

leap of faith coloring book for adultsThis is why it’s so important to me that the Niki Owl coloring book be placed in the hands of as many people as possible. It’s not just any coloring book. Its purpose is to inspire and engage the reader as they color in their own life with Niki Owl as their guide. Reminding them of their strengths, their qualities, and helping recover their love for life itself.

You could pick any other coloring book and aim for simple, mindless relaxation… 

But if you keep going back to that same old Groundhog day routine, then you’re not actively changing your mindset to HAVE a better life, and all those pretty little mandalas mean F*** ALL. I’m serious.

You want to feel better about yourself? THIS is the coloring book.
You want to remember what creativity feels like? THIS is the coloring book.
You want to recover your sense of adventure? THIS is the coloring book.
You want to help someone feel alive again? THIS is the coloring book.

Will you be the giver of Love, Joy and Imagination to someone you know is in desperate need of this kind of support?

Whether that “kid” is 8, 18, 28, 38, 48, 58, or beyond, please pick up a copy of this coloring book and make sure someone gets the chance to re-kindle their love for life.

Save a kid’s life, no matter what “age” they are. You might even save your own.

Eternally grateful,

PS: And if you need more than a handful of copies, email me.

What Happens Now?

“It’s hard to watch.”

A complete stranger said these words to me at the gym after we both watched Hillary’s concession speech. He has two young kids and he knows they don’t understand what’s going on, but I reminded him they’ll still feel whatever energy he’s feeling around this outcome, and to be mindful of his energy.

Whether you like the outcome the 2016 US elections or not, there’s something deeper going on that is giving all of us around the world an opportunity to look at for each one of us.

You probably won’t like what I’m about to say, but it has to be said.

The man had a vision…
He had a strong belief about his vision…
He kept going, against all odds…
And he succeeded.

Does the outcome of this election seem fair? Does it feel good? Probably not, for a lot of you reading this. I’ve read and heard your anger, upset, fear, concerns, shock and dismay. Trust me, I’ve had to hold myself together too…

But I have to look for the gift because that’s who I am. So here it is:

WHAT HE DID, YOU CAN DO TOO. It’s nothing “new” because we all have the ability to set an intention, go for it, and succeed.

Athletes do it all the time. Founders of multi-billion dollar companies did it from their garages. World-renowned artists appear out of nowhere like this.

But too many people have let go of their dreams, falling into mediocrity or letting other people “have power” over them. I can say this because I’ve spoken to so many people who keep themselves small, and deny their own dreams from coming true… It’s shocking, and it needs to change.


This is your opportunity to step it up in your life, focus on what it is you really want and STOP blaming anyone or anything else for what’s not working in your life. Stop making excuses, no matter how legitimate they might seem. You really are the master of your destiny, if you choose to be.

Those people saying they’d leave the country if he got elected? How many are forgetting to finish their sentence with “because I always dreamed of living in (My Dream Country) anyway.”

Seriously? That’s the justification to finally go do something they always wanted to do? Okay, well go do it then. But do it because you really want to, not out of knee-jerk reaction.

Yes, he stirred the pot for all us, around the world. But any time you shake things up, you actually get to see what’s been hidden from view.

The hidden gift of contrast is the powerful desire it stirs up to act on what we want.

And maybe, just maybe… that was his Master Plan all along. Maybe that’s his idea of making the country “great again” because too many people have forgotten their own personal greatness. Again, I say this from hearing other people play to their smallness. And we are ALL mighty beings if we let ourselves believe it.

Again, you may not want to hear this, but be really honest with yourself for a moment:

Are you really living up to your dream life? Or did you get complacent, fall into mediocrity, let someone else “have power” over your reality? Do you tell yourself “I can’t” more than “I can”?

I’m on the side of making dreams come true. It’s my life’s mission to encourage and uplift, even at the darkest moments. For some of you it feels really dark right now, and I get it. I want you to know I’m here for you.

If you feel like tunneling into fear, call me. Or call anyone you see as a mentor, guide, coach, someone who will help you focus on your personal power. I really care about everyone living their best life, and I can’t say it enough.

So, what happens now?

What happens now is this: You decide if you want to pick up that vision of your life that you’ve been slacking on or disbelieving, and actually LIVE IT. It might take some heavy lifting, but it can be done. Again, I’m here for you.

The sooner you get through the pain and ache of this outcome, the sooner you’ll pick yourself up and get to what really matters to you and DO IT, because that’s the true impact you have on your own life. Create your future, because that’s the power YOU have.

But please, whatever you do, act from inspiration, not desperation. Act with grace, not with a grudge.

I really hope you’ll make that call for yourself. Whoever you call upon, I also hope you’ll say these words with passion and inspired determination:


This is your life. Get living it.

With Love and Determination,

Why I Love the Olympics (and you do too)

I gained an early appreciation for the Olympics as a kid growing up in Spain. I took pride in our athletes, and often wondered how they got to be on the national team. There was always something amazing about the opening ceremonies and the Parade of Nations. That inspiration remains with me no matter what.

So, it’s that time of the 4 year cycle again. You may or may not be watching them. If you are, you may have had conversations with people who joke about the Olympics, “Two weeks of sports you never watch during the rest of the year.”

Yet, most of us are glued to the TV at some point, watching swimming, track and field, and other sports we admittedly don’t typically watch very often…


Here’s my theory:

Most TV and news coverage is full of mind-numbing or heart-sinking crap that distracts you from your personal dreams.

With most national channels and news outlets around the world offering full coverage of the Olympics, you get two weeks of reprieve from that distraction. You switch on the TV and can’t help but go from sport to sport, watching people accomplish something special. Anyone from anywhere, or just your favorite athletes. It’s a call beyond national pride, it’s global pride in our potential as humanity when we commit to our joy.

Watching the Olympics, we get to overwhelm our minds with something that is super packed with GOODNESS and inspires us to keep dreaming.

Here’s why I believe we love the Olympics:

They make us feel good.

They’re  a powerful reminder that good things do happen in this world, more than we’re often shown.


We like to see people win because it reminds us that WE win too.

Whilst we think we’re watching athletes compete at their sport, what they’re really doing us is showing us their joy, on a world stage, witnessed by millions.

We also love watching them excel because it triggers that feeling and desire within us.

It might look like they’re competing against one another, but really they’re competing with themselves. And really, the only competition you ever have is with yourself. Whether it’s in business, well being, creativity, love.

“Can I do this thing better than yesterday? Can I express my love more openly? Will I complete that painting today? Can I take my company to the next level and impact more lives? Can I make a consistent habit of feeling good?” The list goes on…

Your stage may not include millions of people, but it still includes people, the most important one being YOU.

Athletes help us remember to be in our joy, because that’s what they live and breathe through their sport and daily practice*. It’s a reminder to perform our personal best, every day. To do it again with more focus, more commitment… and more wonder. Because that’s what keeps them going. The possibility they can run faster, jump higher, score more goals, reach the podium, achieve a gold medal. It’s purely a symbol of achievement, and the biggest achievement is staying the course of feeling good.

We’re built to want, with this vast playground of life experiences to choose from.

Your “gold” may not be a medal, it may be some external symbol of achievement, and it’s whatever it means to you. It’s a reminder of the deeper accomplishment of committing to your own joy. So honor what you relate to as a symbol of personal achievement, as your dreams unfold. This is your life. Create your own benchmarks. Create your own podium. Most of all, have fun.

This is my encouragement for you to carry the torch for your dreams, because the world needs more inspiration.

Every day,

*do athletes feel physically good after completing a triathlon? Probably not, but they do feel ecstatic for staying the course of what they set out to do. That’s what we’re talking about here.

Let’s Be Frank

Last week, I encouraged you to reach out to someone you deem as being well off and ask if there’s something they could use some help with.

Did you do it?

What happened?

You could literally save someone’s life by doing that, and here’s why:

A coaching colleague shared a Linkedin article about a Swiss CEO who recently took his life because he couldn’t deal with certain pressures. Not uncommon in the Executive world, especially those in their 50s who have been brought up with a particular leadership mindset that isolates them from reaching out, because they’re at the top and “they should know what to do”.

This coach’s underlying message was, WE COULD HAVE HELPED THIS MAN.

No joke.

I found myself in similar shoes whilst coaching the CEO of a US company with an inspiring vision. We’ll call this client Frank.

Even though his interest in coaching stemmed from a desire to develop his business, essentially we were working on him. Week after week, we uncovered how he’d been “showing up” in life; lying to himself and others out of fear, ineffective communication based on feelings of inadequacy, low self image (and attire to match), and low energy from wallowing in self defeat.

Many people in leadership think that coaching is all about “how to build rapport” and “how to communicate effectively” and all that stuff, when REAL change is about upgrading your personal awareness and beliefs, to open up and receive that which you’re wanting to create. It’s about raising your energy, so you can create a higher ability to see things through.

The more we steered his focus on what he wanted, Frank’s self image improved (and his attire to match). He created seed money for one of his newer projects. He started talking to “bigger fish” to develop larger scale business deals. He bought a new car. His relationship with his family improved. He was taking better care of his nutrition. Things were on the up on all fronts. And remember, his primary focus had been business.

Whilst Frank was a really sharp guy, one of his biggest woes was that he felt like the ‘The Lone Ranger’ and it was obvious he had a hard time really letting people into his life and his business.

After 8 months, we finally broke through Frank’s biggest barrier.

Our session that week started with Frank telling me that he was ready to move his business forward big time.

I asked Frank what had changed.

“I decided it was time to finally give this life a go.”

He was 57.

I went deeper, and he revealed that for almost 40 years, Frank had been “lost” in a sea of uncertainty, not knowing his place in this world, often wondering if he should peace out of it completely.

“You realise you’ve been emotionally crippled all along, and this is what stunted your business,” I replied.


If he didn’t believe he was worthy of being alive, how could he create a sustainable success in his life and business???

I thanked Frank for his honesty. Most of all, for finally coming clean. This was huge, and it was also very courageous of him to share that level of honesty.

Now he could work with a renewed desire and upgrade his beliefs to get going on CREATING his life and business.

It left me wondering though, “How many people out there go through this?” Because it’s not just top level executives who wonder why they’re here on this planet. That’s why I care so much that each one of us honours our dreams, desires and the things that inspire us. Because THAT’s life. “Business” is simply a form of “how” we do it.

Many people get into a coaching relationship to fulfill a particular goal, but those goals are simply steps to personal clarity, so we can know who we really are and upgrade our quality of life. The goals we set are like the yellow bricks we find along the path to Oz.

You may not call yourself a coach, but you DO have the power to encourage and inspire someone into greatness, because we’re all in this life together.

So, now will you make that call? It may well be the first step to help someone along their Yellow Brick Road to personal fulfillment.

And if you’re not sure what to ask, here’s a suggestion: “If there’s one thing that someone can do to make an impact in your life today, what would it be?” (tweet this)

Thank you for asking,

I Could Really Use Some Help Here

It’s easy to think that someone whom we perceive to be successful (in whatever way we relate to success) doesn’t need or want help.

It’s very easy to assume the CEO has it all together and doesn’t need help. It’s easy to assume the woman who carries herself confidently has it all figured out and doesn’t need help. We are likely to assume the same with people we look up to and admire.

It’s common to think, “Oh, they have money or a staff, so they have the help that they need. They don’t have a need for me to help them.”

We probably assume that the people in our business community don’t need help because we’re all supposed to “look” like we have it together.

The truth is, most of us do need help, regardless of position, regardless of the car we drive, regardless of how we carry ourselves. We don’t always know how to ask.

The trouble with being the person people go to for help and advice is that we don’t always know how to ask for that help ourselves.

We all need help to some degree. And it’s not necessarily a “needy” need coming from a place of pain or lack.

Some parts of society believe that only those in dire straits deserve “help”, and that’s not true at all. Help is available in many forms and for all of us, whether we have 50 cents in a cup or we drive a luxury car, because I believe we all have dreams that deserve to live, and we all deserve to thrive.

If Sir Richard Branson hadn’t known how to ask for help when he started Student magazine, before the Virgin brand came to be, do you think he’d be where he is now? Do you think he’s stopped asking for help at his level of success? Absolutely not! He has a family and dreams to care for, and he still deserves what he asks for, just like you and me. We’re all the same in this regard, and we all deserve to have what we want. Whether we’re creating a business, a car, a house, a relationship, a global mission, or whatever inspires us; we get to have that, and together we get to help each other create it.

The sooner we ask for and offer help, the sooner we all get what we’re aiming for.
(tweet this)

What’s in your heart to grow in your life?

In this light, I challenge you to do this right now:

Think of the most successful person you know (personally), or whom you perceive to be successful or well off. This might be someone whom you frequently rely on for support in your life and business. Now, pick up the phone and ask what he or she could use some help with right now.

Here’s the key:

1. do not judge whatever they’re looking to create – it’s their life and their dreams, just as yours are yours.

2. do this without any expectations of what they might be able to do for you – find out what’s important to them.

3. do not let them get off the phone without an answer (you might be the first person to ever ask them this question!).

Go on, do it. I guarantee you’ll be amazed at what transpires.

I’d love to know what comes of that conversation.


You’re Not Broken

It was a Sunday afternoon. Sitting across the table from me at the coffee shop was a highly successful business man who was managing several high end companies, traveling the world for client meetings and conferences. Life was good on all fronts – he had the luxury car, a comfortable house, he was on a powerful fitness path, and the money was rolling in quite nicely. All sounds pretty good, right?

He had called me that morning sounding distraught over a personal matter, so I agreed to meet with him promptly.

His heart was hurting. He was feeling torn between continuing a friendship with a woman he’d dated several years before who had come back into his life, and letting her go.

He simply wanted to be friends, having realized they were not the ideal match as a couple. He could even pinpoint how their first attempt at a relationship had taken its toll on his ability to take care of himself and keep “his house” in order; such was the level of attention it seemed to require, and which he allowed himself to focus on over his own well being. Every time he felt a sense of freedom from her though, she came at him with some reproach. She was trying every which way to have more than friendship with him, and much as he cared about her, he wanted no such thing. When you try too hard, you actually push against the thing you want to receive.

I listened to him as he candidly shared their last discussion. She felt he needed to go to therapy, so he could fix himself (meaning, so he would be what she wanted him to be for her). He wanted to be with a woman who would love him unconditionally, and let him “be” himself.

I told him, “You’re not broken.”

Have you ever felt that way?

He reached over the table and took my hand gently, but firmly, “Thank you. Thank you…”

It’s not often I see a grown man cry, let alone do so in a public place.

My words – innocent and fast as they rolled out of me – had touched him deeply. I held his hand, and we quietly moved through that tender moment together.

After we went deeper into conversation on what he wanted, he was able to realize that she was simply reflecting back to him his own belief that he could not find everlasting love with a woman who can love and appreciate him wholly and completely for who he is, not try to make him into someone else for her sake. He had twisted himself out of shape looking for that, and after recognizing how it had impacted his life in ways that didn’t serve him, was now in a place to untangle himself from the reflection this person was mirroring back to him. His main task was to stay aligned with that vision he held for himself.

I believe that none of us is broken. What may appear broken is our perception of ourselves, and it’s up to us to change our perception; sometimes, with the loving encouragement of others who see us as we truly are – as powerful creators, perfectly evolving in our excellence (even if we’re not feeling it). This is what helps us grow into the person we feel within, the one that’s knocking at the door of our heart saying, “Hello, it’s Me…”

Just because you’re not getting what you want from somebody does not mean there is something wrong with them or that they’re broken. Some people want others to change for them, so they don’t have to. That’s not how it works.

You can’t make anyone change for you, but you CAN change yourself, and that’s an inside job. But…

You have to want it, to become it.

Consciously. Deliberately. Every day.

Talented as the greatest musicians, artists, athletes and CEO’s of the world are – they all invest time and energy to hone their personal Genius, no matter how they apply it. You could be a CEO looking for your life partner to enjoy your success with, or you might have that base covered and seeking further fulfillment to your life’s purpose through the work you do…

Whatever it is, are you deliberately taking care of your Personal Genius, or are you holding yourself back under the false idea of feeling broken (whilst letting others sway your focus)?

You’re not broken. Nobody is. We’re all perfectly evolving on our journey of Personal Excellence. Your duty is to honour that within yourself, and engage with people who see you with the right eyes.

Big Love,

PS: do you think she was loving herself unconditionally or holding onto a sense of brokenness within?
ANSWER: She’s not broken either…

The Gift of Conversation

My friends in Spain used to joke that I was always on the phone talking to people. One of them even made me a t-shirt about it. In hindsight now, after utilizing tech to the max, I remember WHY I love talking so much…

We have this saying in Spanish, “Hablando se entiende la gente.”

Loosely translated it means, “By talking you understand people.”

Powerful things happen when two people talk about what’s important to them and co-create new outcomes through intentional conversation. And I don’t mean by email; I mean over the phone, sitting side by side, or Mini Me on screen. The energy and clarity that are created in such moments are truly MAGNIFICENT.

Now, I’ll be the first to admit that sometimes I get wrapped up in a written dialogue when a verbal one will take less time and provide more clarity than a series of emails. That’s what happens if I let “writer Karin” take over at certain times… But knowing this about myself gives me further clarity on WHY we pick up the phone or hop on Skype to TALK to one another. It pings me to lead with and SPEAK my truth, and hear yours.

Too many people have become used to sending decision-making communications via email or text only. Some people even use silence as a mode of communication, expecting others to magically “get” their answer. Do you think that’s a healthy strategy for sustainable success? Whether it’s through emails, texts or silence, remember there is still another human being on the other side of that relationship, and too much can get lost in translation because we’re not HEARING what’s being said. Whilst pixels on a screen in the form of text can give us an idea of what’s being expressed, they cannot communicate as effectively as one-to-one verbal dialogue. And we can give silence sooooo many meanings.

Here’s a quick example of what powerful conversations really do for us:

I was recently establishing the long term contract terms for an SEO/web client. I was concerned about how this was being dealt with by email only, and made a request for a conversation to talk this through. I like open communication and direct contact with decision makers; it helps me understand them better to serve them and their vision better.

What transpired with this client was completely not expected but highly welcomed. We had a very open hearted conversation about what’s been going on in this client’s life and what’s been “conditioning” some decisions, especially around the plan I’ve presented to empower the business’s success through SEO. There is no BS here and the client is 100% committed to making this happen, even though there is a bit of a strategic juggle required at this time to do so. I so appreciate that transparency and level of commitment.

You see, I know what needs to be done, and I’m clear on my terms, but I’m also flexible. White-knuckling something doesn’t get anyone anywhere healthy and happy for the long run. So what do you do? You let go of how you think it’s supposed to be, and let something even better flow in. Simply put, you get out of your own way. It opens the channels to provide what it is you’re really looking for to reach you.

This client was so appreciative of our conversation, “Thank you for setting a standard… There are moments when we have impactful conversations that transform our lives, and this was one of those conversations.”


I can’t count how many times we thanked each other at the end of the conversation for our mutual transparency, authenticity, listening skills, BEing there, holding the vision of greatness, and clarifying next steps. This client also extended the invitation to help me with what I’m building personally. Again, totally unexpected but so very welcome and refreshing. I’m all about powerful co-creation through personal alignment and inspired action. No wonder I resonate so strongly with this client. This is synergy at its best.

This is called living authentically. When we engage in conversations that activate our empowerment and inspiration to meet our dreams and goals, WE MEET THEM FULL FORCE.

So really, I should have expected this client’s transparency and openness, because I’m leading with this in my personal communications.

…and this is what an empowered intentional conversation really does. It allows us to courageously look things in the eyes and engage with our desired outcome, instead of hide behind the smallness of “what is”. We move forward with more clarity, more personal engagement and understanding of who we really are. We open up to powerful collaborations, and we soar.

THIS is why I’m so thankful to this client and anyone else I engage with at this level – when we consciously make the time to listen to one another. To reach out, to reach back. To share what we’re really aiming for and live up to it, fully empowered.

It creates a special kind of momentum that transforms everything at lightning speed. It wipes out stories that limit our thinking on what we can achieve, and allows us to actually RECEIVE it.

This comes from what I gained 1000% personal clarity on this year, which I am carrying forward with me as of now:

Conviction. Commitment. Collaboration.

It’s important to me to have mutual respect with the people on my team, my clients, my partners and anyone I engage with who also leads with conviction, commitment and the spirit of collaboration. This is effective relationship development, and how we create greatness, together.

Are you giving the gift of conversation to the people in your life?

PS: Give the gift of conversation to the people in your life. A little bit goes a long way for clarity. (tweet this)