Why It’s Time to Say Goodbye to “Hard” Work

I don’t relate to the idea of “hard work”. This idea stems from a particular belief around how we integrate work and play in our lives.

I often hear business owners, entrepreneurs, creatives and high performing athletes talk – almost preach – about how hard they worked to be where they are now. And I wonder…

Is it really hard work? And who came up with that idea anyway?

The industrial revolution is far behind us, and we’re going full steam ahead with the revolution of our consciousness.

So on that note…

It’s time for a Genius Moment! Stop and ask yourself what “hard work” really means to you. Peel back the “hard” label that has been so readily slapped onto work. Who put it there to begin with? Go deeper on your personal definition and values. How would you really like work to feel? You may discover that what lies beneath is diligence, efficiency, dedication, consistency, focus, passion, inspiration… There is nothing hard about any of those, is there?

Awesome! Now ditch the thought of “hard work”!

I imagine you had some cool discoveries just now writing down what is really driving your beliefs about work.

If you believe that you create your own reality by the thoughts you think… then doesn’t it make sense to change this thought? And if you don’t think that you create your reality yet feel the strain of hardship… have you given yourself the opportunity to think and do things differently?

The simplest way to put it is this:
– Hard creates tension and struggle
– Easy creates flow and momentum

Both are habits we cultivate in the mind… How would you prefer your work to be?

Genius Moment: When you notice yourself going into “hard work” zone, STOP. Step back, take a deep breath or several, and ask yourself how you’d like this moment/project/task/day to flow… I imagine you’ll chose something like, “I want to feel good/enthusiastic/easy/awesome/inspired/fun…” Then approach what you’re doing with that refreshed energy. You can reset as many times throughout a task or work day as you need to, simply based on how you want to feel. You’ll recognise quickly when you’re not feeling that way.

Seriously, ditch “hard” completely…

Some people imbue this concept into everything they do. Even in terms of personal development. For example:

“I’ve never meditated before, it’s going to be hard for me to sit still for even 2 minutes.”

IS IT REALLY??

Because if you think it will be hard, then it will be hard, my friend. And the more you tell yourself that, the more you cement it into your mind and stop yourself from having an open experience of it. This applies to anything.

What if there were no adjective attached and it was a case of, quite simply, sitting still for 2 minutes? What if you make no projection of how it will be, and surprise yourself with however it feels and flows in that moment? Can you do that for 2 minutes?

Genius Moment: Which areas of your life do you find yourself thinking something will be “hard”, only to find that things become hard? Write down some new ways of thinking around how you’d like each area of your life to feel and flow (regardless of “how things have always been” or how others tell you things will be – that’s their experience not yours). Remember you are the creator and curator of your reality, so stop perpetuating any old funk and start creating new genius moments. Thought by thought. Moment by moment. Smile by smile.

With consistent application, you’ll soon notice the only “hard” things left in your life may simply be the hard boiled eggs you have for breakfast.

Work Hard, Play Hard = No, Gracias!

You choose.

I prefer this: Work Nice, Play Nice = Si, Gracias!

I advocate for removing the word “hard” from our thinking. I advocate for finding other words that align with how you really want to feel with what you do, because feeling good drives everything. Wouldn’t you agree?

Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below if you feel so inspired.

Be Genius,

Karin

My Biggest Leap of Faith & What I’ve Learned So Far

Some anniversaries are quickly forgotten. Others are meant to be honoured because of the power they hold as reminders of how far we’ve come when we didn’t think we could do something.

This boarding pass marks the anniversary of my biggest leap of faith, which I took on this day in 2008. It’s important for me to pay tribute to it every year, because it put me fully on course with my dreams, my desires, and my purpose.

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Part of the journey, like any flight, has had clouds and moments of turbulence. For the most part it has been filled with pure awe, delight, curiosity, new perspectives and more love than I could have imagined that day I set foot on the plane in Malaga, on my way to London, destination Vancouver. Two suitcases, a guitar, a handful of drum sticks, and a heart full of wonder and excitement.

A new world opened up for me, which was really a reflection of me opening up to the world.

Some of the golden nuggets I’ve collected so far:

Home is a state of being, not a place (although having one that reflects our state of being is a wonderful thing).

Courage comes from being fully invested in what makes your heart open wide. People have often told me how strong and courageous I am for leaving what I knew for something new and arriving there by myself, several times (they seem to remind me most when I have felt it the least). You can do it too.

Resilience requires release. Release of fear, of anxiety, of the things we learned growing up that no longer serve us now, and obscured our vision of ourselves. You gain so much by lightening the emotional baggage.

Faith fuels clarity and vision. We never know who will stay the course with us, or for how long. Letting go of certain people may shake us to the core at times. The key is for you to stay the course for yourself.

Trust your intuition and change your course as it feels best for you. You’re not letting anybody down by doing so. People who really care for your well being will understand, and they will help you get there. You will also encounter mind-blowing generosity from strangers and people you didn’t realise care that much about you.

Vulnerability shows us how strong we really are, especially when faced with adversity. It also shows us who we can share our biggest dreams and deepest concerns with, acting as the emotional gauge for our support network.

Create anew no matter where you are. Every place, every person is a reflection of what you’ve been inviting into your life. If it doesn’t feel right, give yourself the opportunity to understand what you’ve been inviting, change whatever needs to be changed, and do it lovingly. Remember change stems from how you think.

Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
– Mark Twain

For all of you who I have met, whether briefly or we’re actively “travelling together”, you are cherished. No matter how seemingly small or random our connection may appear to you, it is great in my mind. You have impacted me in so many ways, and I can only hope that my presence in your life offers you some form of inspiration also.

May you believe you can do that thing you want to do, and do it.

May your greatest dreams come true in this lifetime, because that’s what we’re here for.

And may you keep taking leaps of faith.

Know What You’re Feeling & Where It’s Coming From

Being an empath means I often sense strong energies that others are unconsciously “throwing” around. If you’re sensitive like this, you may share similar experiences.

Now, it’s great when you sense love and excitement – but what about anger or upset?

Ever feel that wave of urgent, anxious energy before the phone rings or an email comes in?

Some people are unaware of the energy they’re sending out.

You can choose to manage your state as best you feel, especially if you know there is something going on behind the scenes, and perhaps even between the two of you. Truth is, you never really know where they’re coming from unless they tell you. And if they’re not aware, or willing to look, chances are they won’t.

If someone sends this type of energy your way, it’s okay to ask them to check in with themselves. They may choose to deny their own energetic vibrations and respond by saying that your energy is out of alignment.

{Cue: Strong Hint}

If the feeling arrives before there is conscious interaction between you, trust that you’re sensing someone else’s energy bumping up against your own feelings.

If a person continues to deposit this energy at your feet, then you have some choices to make, like stepping out of their energetic field as best you can, and tending to yours. Time and your intuition will guide the outcome of the relationship.

At the end of the day, it’s about stepping out of old patterns and into new ones. Put the ego or any hurt aside, and come back to Love. That’s what we’re all really seeking anyway.

Know your feelings, and if someone senses they’re off, take a moment to check in with yourself and get back on course.

When someone’s energy feels challenging, how do you navigate your state and involvement in the relationship?

(re)Solution

{includes a free story for you}

Just as I believe that we all can resolve to give our lives new meaning anywhere and anytime, I also believe in the collective energy that we all can benefit from on specific dates, like New Year. We gather to give ourselves the opportunity to effect obvious change in our lives, and to somehow hold one another accountable for these resolutions. They could be calls for help, simple affirmations or just seeking another check-in buddy for the sake of new perspectives.

I find it sad when certain people already give themselves a way out of New Year’s resolutions by stating, in the same sentence as the resolution itself, how they probably won’t make it and give up after 2 weeks.

Wow. Attitude check.

Last night, over dinner with friends, we didn’t talk about New Year’s Resolutions. Instead, we highlighted our best or favourite achievements of 2012. And before I could even say mine, someone I had already spoken to about it said, “Karin published her book!”

Oh ya, I did. And it feels so good!

The things is, I let go of making New Year’s resolutions a long time ago, mostly because I didn’t quite resonate with them. I seem to have a built-in mechanism that puts things into motion already in December, so that by the time January comes around things are already manifesting and working out in new and better ways. Sometimes it takes a little longer, sometimes it happens practically overnight. Either way, I’ve learned to trust the process.

Letting go of making New Year’s Resolutions did not, however, stop me from writing a story about it some time ago, which I have now refreshed a little and offer to you as a freebie to download. It is the story of Resolution’s New Year, written as a Greek tragedy of sorts, with a twist and a play on words, which is what I love to do.

Download your free copy of Resolution’s New Year

In fact, thinking of the word “resolution” this morning, I looked at one of its other definitions that some people seem to have forgotten…

When you separate the word, you get “re-solution.” A means of finding new solutions to an old issue or nagging feeling. Re-solve it, from a new angle. Maybe take a smaller step than the one so many others are taking because certain group consciousness has guided them towards making massive change that may be too steep for them to manage. Re-group your thoughts around this concept to make the most effective change for you.

I spent my weekend honing in on my core desired feelings via Danielle LaPorte’s The Desire Map. I highly recommend it if you’re not on board already. This will completely overhaul your sense of goal-setting, and bring you right back to the source of your desires, which is what allows us to make real impacting change going forward.

Resolutions, much like goals, can seem daunting at times. So this will help get you out of overwhelm and into heartfelt decision-making.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on what it means to you to make promises to yourself in the comments below. How do you keep your faith and see things through?

Wishing you the best days of your lives from here on.

Accidents Are NOT Karma Saying F*** You…

I write this as a tribute to anyone who has experienced severe wake up calls (referred to by some as ‘accidents’), and a gentle reminder that it’s okay. You’re more than okay. You’re clearing your path to new awareness and what you truly desire. Here’s my story:

I was in Vancouver enjoying a glorious April afternoon drive back from the North Shore to the West End in the passenger seat of a friend’s car. We were happily engaged in conversation coasting along Denman Street, when a car almost sideswiped us from an alley coming up to the light at Robson Street.

I couldn’t make out exactly how close he stopped by my side of the car, although the driver’s eyes were certainly within clear view.

My heart rate sped up a bit although I kept my cool (I only know one other person who would keep calm in a situation like that).

My friend’s temper rose as he hit the brakes and swore at the driver, while I took off my sunglasses, looked the man straight in the eyes, smiled, and cautioned with my hand as I mouthed, “Slow down.”

The man looked like he’d just received an intravenous injection of extra bold coffee. He seemed oblivious to the fact that he might just have hurt someone, and perhaps even himself.

My friend’s temper waned a few blocks after we drove off. I wondered what our respective wake up calls were, as I thanked providence for protecting us from physical harm.

It’s easy to think someone is at fault and point the finger. But the truth is…

Accidents are no accident.

They are wake up calls from our subconscious mind. It’s up to us to uncover what each one is for us, and then clear our patterns or limiting beliefs so we are free of ‘road blocks,’ which is what these situations usually represent.

I took this incident as an opportunity to be more alert to my surroundings, and a reminder of how well protected I am. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Now, it’s okay to release the nervous energies that may come up if something happens. Remember this is happening through you, not to you. So allow yourself to move through it.

What happened ‘to’ you does not define you. It’s an experience you went through, it’s not your identity. Turn your past into a classroom. – Robert Holden

While you take a moment to relax and gather yourself, trust that you’ve given yourself an opportunity to let go of old fears and inhibitions.

Your natural, old reactions may be to hunker down and feed the fear. You might want beat yourself up over something. Not feel good enough. Think karma’s a bitch, and you’re getting paid back for something you did. Give a ‘valid’ reason not to show up for yourself in new ways…

Stop. Change gears.

Spare yourself the adrenaline rush of dramatic situations.

Yes, we get what we think of most of the time.

Yes, thought is cause and outcome is effect (aka ‘karma’) – now you can stop feeling like you may have brought something negative onto yourself, engage new thoughts and bring something new to the table for you to enjoy.

You’re alive. You’re awake. You can find new awareness in healthier ways, can’t you?

Of course you can…

How are you choosing to release yourself now from the blocks of the past, and move forward consciously, with safety and ease?

Green light. Move along now, with ease and awareness.

Karin

When Progress Becomes Completion

So it arrived yesterday afternoon… the first soft cover copy of my book, freshly hatched from the publishers a couple days ago. Here it is…

I was told it would arrive in 2-3 weeks, and it actually took 2-3 days. Godspeed, I tell you (influenced by UPS, no doubt, which I’m loving right now).

This book concept was born over 10 years ago, and after some major personal shifts reviewing my life and marketing career that spawned during that time, I re-visited the idea during my trip to London last summer for my birthday. I treated myself to see my favourite band (Take That) perform at Wembley Stadium. That tour was called Progress, and I couldn’t help but feel a strong synergy with that word…

When you’re in a stadium surrounded by 85,291 people and a 30m robot representing the stages of human progress, you gain a whole new perspective on possibility. And conscious ‘progress’ has been the story of my life since then, as I sifted, wrote, thought, created, travelled, and decided.

Yes, decided.

You see, I had spent most of my life with two separate ideas that I hadn’t dared to integrate (mostly distracted by a marketing career in which I felt the need to provide results for others more than for myself)… my cartoon owl called Niki, and a collection of short stories that integrate life lessons with light spirituality and intelligent humour.

After arriving in LA a few years ago, I decided to make time to invest in me, through coaching and other kinds of personal development. After a series of integrations and what I call ‘deep sea diving’ consciousness explorations, I realised the higher purposes of both my ideas, brought them together, and here it is… my first book featuring Niki Owl, who tells his story of self discovery as he explores the west coast of Canada, which added ‘travel journal’ and ‘social commentary’ to the scope of the book for a more encompassing human connection.

The magic starts to happen when you decide to take action on the things that matter most to you and implement them in your daily life. You learn to build conscious traction, and watch with amazement as your manifestations come to fruition.

This is how my progress became completion…

And this is only the beginning of a whole new chapter in my life.

My request to all of you: stop waiting for Life to happen. Recognise who & what are already within reach for what they really are, and start making Life happen for yourselves… really, truly, amazingly… step by step, chapter by chapter, so the book of your life can take Real Shape now too.

I’m excited about what happens next… are you?

 

Walk This Way

We all ask for something, and sometimes get turned down. We might ask again from a few other angles, just like a kid asking to go to the candy store. He won’t ask just once. He will do his best with varying degrees of diplomacy, determination or tantrum, to get what he’s looking for.

When someone is asking you to do something, how do you choose to react?

Another person’s motivation may rattle your mind.

You might choose to get defensive and declare, “That person is pushy.” Then you might switch off and look the other way, spinning around in the same old circles of self doubt or stubborn polar opposite responses. You might dig your heels in a little more and stay put, “Just because”.

Cop out.

Dare to look yourself in the mirror and ask what’s really happening here for you to choose to react that way. What’s motivating you to hide behind the walls, instead of taking them apart to see what lies beyond? How fresh is the air behind those walls?

Quite often, people or situations that seem pushy are merely shedding light on what we can change about ourselves to let go of limitations, and move toward what we want with trust, confidence and clarity.

Is someone simply reflecting to you the things you stopped believing you could have? Can you see this as an opportunity to be, do and have something different?

To Cross, Push Button…

We see it all the time when we’re at a traffic light. We press the button automatically, knowing that we will be able to make our way to the other side with ease when the light changes.

So how come we stop ourselves from doing this more consciously at times when it serves our overall well being and happiness?

To cross a threshold within, we may need external motivation from someone or something to ‘push’ those buttons for us to see what else we can shift for a full break through and lift off.

When the light of your mind changes…

Embrace motivation.

You may have been feeling jaded, lost, felt ‘pushed down’ by others, tripped yourself up, given up on something or someone. Do you use this as another excuse to tunnel deeper into the rabbit holes?

We’re just showing you how to be motivated, with extra doses of joy and excitement.

Can you find gratitude and inspiration in what others are showing you now?

Someone may be offering you a new way of achieving things that’s a little outside of your comfort zone (the one you didn’t dare to step out of before because somewhere along your time line you stopped believing you can stretch into amazing possibilities).

Choose to open up the flood gates of your dreams and receive them.

Turn these situations into liberating moments in which you gladly step through the next layer of limitation or indecision, and reach the next step along your path. Heel, toe, repeat.

Keep your eyes open, and keep looking at the bright lights. Keep your ears open, and keep listening to the sounds of faith.

Go on, push that button and start walking…

Rule The World

Watching London’s closing ceremonies gave me time for some brief introspection of the last few weeks watching world class athletes perform. It has been so inspiring as I complete my forthcoming book, I want to be done with it already.

Of course, we still have a couple more weeks to look forward to with another awe-inspiring collective of athletes.

You may Believe that we are all part of one Love energy, one juicy awe inducing Consciousness, one massive community of Creators.

Or…

You may Believe that we are the product of genetic evolution from particles that came together over time and space.

Or…

You may Believe in the synergy of both.

However you choose to look at Life, there is no denying that as human beings we are each a part of the whole magic of Life.

And how we choose to perform in our lives is what makes us excel in our own ways.

As the world watched these remarkable human beings for two weeks, we can see once again how to take an individual goal, surpass all known limitations and come together as one global community raising itself to a whole new level of Belief in self.

Where our differences are motivators for personal excellence.

Where camaraderie unites us in awe of one another.

Humans being self-fulfilled individuals within the whole of humanity.

So instead of putting each other down out of jealousy, fear or skepticism, we actively support each other in being our best.

And when there’s something in life that you want, achieving it comes down to a very simple thought – if there’s nobody apparently better than you out there, then go for it, Phelps style. Break through your previous limitations with eyes wide open, like those of a child looking at something for the very first time.

If you encounter criticism from others, remind yourself that it’s their choice how they focus their energy.

If others choose to focus on pulling you down, continue to focus on building yourself up. Simply carry on doing what you can for you, since their path is theirs for the making.

Your excellence acts a beacon to show others how they can excel for themselves.

Somebody else will take inspiration from you and propel themselves to greater heights.

And if there is somebody better than you at something, applaud them as you take inspiration from their feats.

Our achievements come down to Attitude, Belief, and Commitment to giving it our all.

This is what makes us humane champions of life.

This is how we rule the world.

 

What You Believe In {The Golden Threads}

It’s my birthday.

We threw a party yesterday (it was a hoot).

There was great home cooked food, baked treats, wonderful surprises, and heaps of fun.

I had a simple request for my guests:

Take a moment and write down what You Believe in & Value about Friendship, Love & Yourself (believing in yourself is muy importante).

And most of them did. There was room for anonymity as well. I had a few emailed to me.

Then we read them out loud.

Some people kept it simple, others elaborated, others quoted their mentors. It was eye opening, inspiring, beautiful, and everyone walked away from it with an extra glimmer in their eyes, with some saying, “What a great idea for a party!”

Some of the Beliefs & Values that we shared:

“I believe in the power of change: the rewards for risk takers and the stability of friendship and love.”

“The ones you can let your walls down with, the ones you can trust to say it how it is, the ones that you will always have your heart and home open to. No matter the distance…”

“Friends consider you family.”

“Love has many faces & varying degrees of intensity.”

“Friendship is true loyalty, mutual respect, quality fun.”

“Love is openness, communication, generosity, self-truth and an open heart.”

“Friendship is priceless, invaluable.”

“Truth, Beauty, Love.”

“Love is not a fairytale, but it can be beautiful and real.”

“Threads that are golden do not break easily.” (from a Tori Amos song)

“When the true one (Love) is found it is a miracle that you should never let go.”

I’m Confessing…

At times we hold back from being open about what we Believe in, because at some point we were put down or judged by another person, and this scared us off from sharing our beliefs with others who genuinely care and actively encourage our dreams. I know I’ve let that hold me back at times.

Life can shock and shake us up to a point in which this level of transparency seems almost pointless. It’s the most hollow feeling imaginable… yet if you follow that golden thread within, you’ll find your way through.

“‎The greatest fear in the world is of the opinions of others. And the moment you are unafraid of the crowd you are no longer a sheep, you become a lion. A great roar arises in your heart, the roar of freedom.”
– Osho

If you’re at that place where you’ve been feeling flat, or just generally feeling like something needs to change, then it’s time to plant new seeds and review your Beliefs.

Life is a huge canvas in which you can be whoever you want to be (and change it up when you choose). The key to achieving any of this is Belief – in yourself, your abilities, your dreams, the things you know are in your heart simply waiting to wake up and be given free rein. And being with people who encourage and support you in this Big Adventure of Life.

And it’s okay no matter what happens… it’s what You Believe in. And the right people will show up for you – just keep your eyes, ears, mind and heart open.

We’re all rooting for You,

Karin

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Life is a huge canvas in which you can be whoever you want to be (and change it up when you choose) @KarinPinter

Duende {The Magic in You}

In Spain, we often use this word to describe an artist’s magical ability to transport us into another realm… picture the journey a classical guitarist takes you on as you listen to the enchanting melodies that he conjures up… they may come inspired by the scent of dama de noche on a late summer night, the other-worldly shade of blue he witnesses when the sun looks you in the eyes, or from the memories of lifetimes past in Moorish gardens when declarations of intent were sent by a messenger on a horse.

Duende… Magical. Mystical. Mesmerising.

Duende… When somebody sings a song that transports you to a whole new world of possibilities…

When you meet someone and think, “There’s something about you…” and you haven’t consciously put your finger on it quite yet…

When you create something so pure and so honest, you cry with joy because you have no idea where the inspiration came from, and you want your Muse to stay forever.

It’s a feeling… something intangible, je ne sais quoi, there-is-no-word-just-a-curious-feeling kind of feeling.

It’s out of the box. An unknown that you might fear until enough curiosity has grown inside of you to reach a flipping point, allowing the unknown to be known, and the unseen to be seen.

And suddenly, you wake up to your own duende.

It was never lost, you just stopped looking. And then you easily recognise it in the others around you. You see them for who they really are, and you breathe a sigh of relief.

“I’m not alone anymore.”

No, you’re not. And you never were, my dear friend.

Like the permeating scent of that night flower, wrapping you in its gentle confidence, whispering in your ear as you sleep, reminding you that tomorrow your dreams will still wake up with you, stronger than before.

More colourful. More vibrant. More committed. More in tune with you.

Trusting that what is meant to be, already is, simply because you dreamed it, and you are aware now that it’s up to you to make it happen.

Genius, You.

Gone are the days when you nervously took two steps forward and one step back with no compass other than hope. Now you can take confident consecutive steps to meet what you most desire. One by one, day after day, watching it all come together so nicely because the road is easier to navigate now that you trust your inner guidance. It’s showing you the way and new ways of doing things.

Now that’s what we call ‘magic’.

Asking becomes easy. Sharing becomes easy. Allowing becomes easy.

Being becomes easy.

Ease becomes easy.

No matter how high the walls of a garden, no flower, no matter how seemingly delicate, or whatever obstacles in its path, ever stopped from making its way to the top and finding the sunshine it knew was always there. Because it’s been there since before you opened your eyes to it. And in those silent moments, when you felt nothing was happening, the flower grew stronger roots to support its journey into this new realm of amazement.

And you’re amazing.

It was never soul seeking, it is soul seeing.

{Nice to see you…}

Duende… The spirit that dreams are made of, and how they come to be real.

Trust yours now.  It will bring you closer to those who are already sharing theirs with you. And when you feel even the slightest flurry in your soul, embrace it. It’s telling you that what you’re seeking is already seeking you, already found you. And you’ve known this all along… haven’t you?

Turn a new page in this book you kept looking at and thought you’d never pick up, let alone read. And then all the stories it tells you make sense now.

The rest is still unwritten… And that’s okay, because you don’t need to know or do everything right now. The fear is gone and you’re so intrigued by what’s next that you have no time for doubts or confusion anymore, do you?

Your Master Plan is made up of smaller plans that come together as key elements for your highest intentions. And as you consciously allow them into your existence, your inspiration touches others around you too.

Duende… Magical. Mystical. Mesmerising. Go You…