(this post is dedicated to all my coach friends and colleagues, and all coaches around the world)
A Genius in sports development for whom I have massive respect asked me what I usually do before I start working with a coaching client. She asked if we talk about their past and what’s happened to them, or what? I love this question!
I said we spend a couple hours talking about the FUTURE. What is their life vision? Their business vision? Their project’s vision? Their relationship vision? We establish where they are now and where they want to be. We agree, in the most powerful way – with a handshake and their coaching investment paid in full, up front – to embark on an amazing journey together to empower them in the realization of their vision and dreams.
During this time we create a powerful relationship in a trusted space. There will be laughter, tears, awakenings, epiphanies, boldness, gentle whispers, loud roars, tall orders, passion, and above all IMPACT as we move through the ebbs and flows of how they’re actually living what they say they want. Some things from the past will come up, but we’ll glide through them based on their strong desire for a better future. They may not always realize it at the time, but just like I do with my coach, I ABSOLUTELY become a better version of myself every day.
It stems from my 100% willingness to grow, to achieve what I set out to do in my whole life, and get to it with zest and inspiration. That is the minimum I expect from anyone I engage with, because I set a high benchmark for myself. We’re not here to prove anything to anyone, we’re here to BE and allow that awareness to imbue our daily actions in this playground of Life.
That’s what the power of commitment does. That’s what standing in integrity does. These qualities help us embrace more of what we desire by celebrating that which we have right now, and letting go of what isn’t working (including certain people).
Integrity and Commitment to our path helps us actually BE the change we wish to see in our world, because whilst many people talk about wanting change, they chicken out of actually doing the work it takes to be the change they seek. That’s the whole f***ing point!
BE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO ENJOY THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH.
BE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO DO BUSINESS WITH.
AND SEE HOW QUICKLY THOSE PEOPLE SHOW UP IN YOUR LIFE!
These brilliant words by Werner Erhard summarise the value and ultimate service of this transformational work beautifully:
My notion about service is actually that kind of relationship in which you have a commitment to the other person. Now, I don’t mean to the person’s body or to the person’s personality, or to the person’s stomach, or the person’s almost anything. What I mean in fact is that for me what service is about is being committed to the other being. To the person spiritually. To who the other person is. Now the problem with that is that, to the degree that you are in fact committed to the other person, you are only as valuable as the degree to which you can deal with the other person’s stuff, their evidence, their manifestation, and that’s what service is about. Service is knowing who the other person is and being able to tolerate giving space to their garbage. What most people do is to give space to people’s quality and deal with their garbage. Actually, you should do it the other way around. Deal with who they are and give space to their garbage. Keep interacting with them as if they are God. And every time you get garbage from them, give space to the garbage and go back and interact with them as if they were God.
Some people interpret “dealing with who they are” as the less-than version of themselves because their self esteem is scattered on the floor somewhere. In this coaching realm we sometimes have to rattle and shake things out of people who think that way, because we KNOW deep inside that the best of you is IN there, waiting to come out when you decide to come out. It’s safer than you think.
We’re here to shine the brightest light on you until you ultimately BELIEVE that you Are Great, you Are Magnificent, you Are Genius, and so much more… Now start living it.
LIVE BOLDLY. LIVE BEAUTIFULLY. AND MOST OF ALL, LIVE THE ABSOLUTE GORGEOUSNESS OF YOUR EXCELLENCE. (TWEET THIS)