The True Mission & Vision of Coaching

(this post is dedicated to all my coach friends and colleagues, and all coaches around the world)

A Genius in sports development for whom I have massive respect asked me what I usually do before I start working with a coaching client. She asked if we talk about their past and what’s happened to them, or what? I love this question!

I said we spend a couple hours talking about the FUTURE. What is their life vision? Their business vision? Their project’s vision? Their relationship vision? We establish where they are now and where they want to be. We agree, in the most powerful way – with a handshake and their coaching investment paid in full, up front – to embark on an amazing journey together to empower them in the realization of their vision and dreams.

During this time we create a powerful relationship in a trusted space. There will be laughter, tears, awakenings, epiphanies, boldness, gentle whispers, loud roars, tall orders, passion, and above all IMPACT as we move through the ebbs and flows of how they’re actually living what they say they want. Some things from the past will come up, but we’ll glide through them based on their strong desire for a better future. They may not always realize it at the time, but just like I do with my coach, I ABSOLUTELY become a better version of myself every day.

It stems from my 100% willingness to grow, to achieve what I set out to do in my whole life, and get to it with zest and inspiration. That is the minimum I expect from anyone I engage with, because I set a high benchmark for myself. We’re not here to prove anything to anyone, we’re here to BE and allow that awareness to imbue our daily actions in this playground of Life.

That’s what the power of commitment does. That’s what standing in integrity does. These qualities help us embrace more of what we desire by celebrating that which we have right now, and letting go of what isn’t working (including certain people).

Integrity and Commitment to our path helps us actually BE the change we wish to see in our world, because whilst many people talk about wanting change, they chicken out of actually doing the work it takes to be the change they seek. That’s the whole f***ing point!

BE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO ENJOY THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH.
BE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO DO BUSINESS WITH.

AND SEE HOW QUICKLY THOSE PEOPLE SHOW UP IN YOUR LIFE!

These brilliant words by Werner Erhard summarise the value and ultimate service of this transformational work beautifully:

My notion about service is actually that kind of relationship in which you have a commitment to the other person. Now, I don’t mean to the person’s body or to the person’s personality, or to the person’s stomach, or the person’s almost anything. What I mean in fact is that for me what service is about is being committed to the other being. To the person spiritually. To who the other person is. Now the problem with that is that, to the degree that you are in fact committed to the other person, you are only as valuable as the degree to which you can deal with the other person’s stuff, their evidence, their manifestation, and that’s what service is about. Service is knowing who the other person is and being able to tolerate giving space to their garbage. What most people do is to give space to people’s quality and deal with their garbage. Actually, you should do it the other way around. Deal with who they are and give space to their garbage. Keep interacting with them as if they are God. And every time you get garbage from them, give space to the garbage and go back and interact with them as if they were God.

Some people interpret “dealing with who they are” as the less-than version of themselves because their self esteem is scattered on the floor somewhere. In this coaching realm we sometimes have to rattle and shake things out of people who think that way, because we KNOW deep inside that the best of you is IN there, waiting to come out when you decide to come out. It’s safer than you think.

We’re here to shine the brightest light on you until you ultimately BELIEVE that you Are Great, you Are Magnificent, you Are Genius, and so much more… Now start living it.

LIVE BOLDLY. LIVE BEAUTIFULLY. AND MOST OF ALL, LIVE THE ABSOLUTE GORGEOUSNESS OF YOUR EXCELLENCE(TWEET THIS)

Big Love,

Karin

The Buck Stops Here

“The buck stops here” is a phrase that became popular via U.S. President Harry S. Truman, who kept a sign on his desk in the Oval Office with this phrase. It refers to the fact that the President has to make decisions and accept ultimate responsibility for those decisions (instead of “passing the buck” or looking for a scapegoat).

Now, let’s look at how this affects all of us…

Three of us were consulting with a client earlier this week to provide insight and focus on where she is going in her business. I was the tech subject matter expert on this meeting.

Our client’s key concern was her financial flow – it wasn’t really “happening”, and however much was, was a struggle.

Now, this client is a leading expert in her field, and is respected internationally. She’s made an impact around the world for 20+ years doing what she loves, and is highly committed to fulfilling a beautiful mission and calling. Even Presidents call on her for her work.

She should be well-off financially, right? So why the financial hiccup then?

Curious, we asked more questions.

It turned out all the links to purchase her products and services on her website were BROKEN. So there was no way someone could pay her through the website even though she has a shopping cart in place and all.

How strange, right?

Well, you might think that’s just bad technology or gremlins or something, but after talking more about how she’s been thinking, we discovered what was really causing the blockage…

In her mind, she equated “being a successful business woman” with “losing touch with her mission”. Out of this fear, she was energetically and literally blocking the flow of money coming to her by the way she was thinking about herself and business.

See, many people have this mis-guided notion that to be “successful” you’ve got to lose sight of your Why and your values, and become a heartless money-hungry robot.

Au contraire, my friends… What you DO have to lose and what you WILL lose by allowing yourself to be successful is the lack of confidence, the false beliefs, and the pain of not having what you say you want. Success is all-inclusive of our personal, professional, spiritual and financial desires – and you get to choose what that looks like for you.

We are moving (quickly) into a wholehearteded world where CEO’s and businesses are integrating their vision with their heartfelt desires, for everyone to benefit and thrive.

After our “Trinity of Optimisation” team shared some powerful examples of successful business women who are still in touch with their mission (even more so in fact!!), our client was able to form a new association between “being a successful business woman” and “staying in touch with her mission,” which opened up the energy to breathe new life into her business operations and systems.

Our client realized that the MEANING she was giving to being a successful business woman was actually undermining the fulfillment of her mission. That’s really why her website payment links didn’t work… Now with the new meaning she’s giving to being a business woman, she is able to make better-feeling decisions to follow through on her mission. How cool is that?

I celebrate her for making the decision to change her thinking, and that comes from her deep commitment to her mission.

You might call me weird, but I’ve been around long enough in the tech world and personal development field to KNOW and SEE these signs clearly.

You can choose to be as skeptical about this as you please – I’m simply pointing out some very clear and strong facts here for you to consider.

That’s why it’s so important to align Why we do what we do with the Meaning we give things, the Beliefs we have and the Energy we operate with, and notice how this translates into our reality.

YOUR WHY + MEANING + BELIEF + ENERGY = YOUR RECIPE FOR SUCCESS (tweet this)

The ENERGY we put out creates what we experience, in some form or another, consciously or not.

The MEANING we give things defines the BELIEFS we have about ourselves, others, and the world we live in.

Leading with the heart opens up to sharing your WHY powerfully and genuinely engaging others to co-create/work with you.

Making one “small” shift in your thinking makes a HUGE impact in your life and business, just like our web client did with her business mindset. It comes down to being open, coachable and making decisions. And you can make new ones any day, any time.

As Tony Robbins says, “Decisions create Destiny.”

What destiny are you creating for yourself right now? I’d love to know…

Karin

Image credit: William Holman Hunt [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

Is Today Your Day?

I started playing classical guitar in 1994, about a year before Niki Owl was “born”. I played diligently every afternoon, gaining new appreciation for music and my abilities to transform those little “fly shits on paper” (as my Dad calls them) into beautiful sounds. My guitar teacher would give me concert pieces one sheet at a time, to fuel my desire to master each page before moving onto the next. Genius.

It taught me a lot about focus and consistent action.

I was recently in conversation with a CEO who used to related to his life as “seasonal.” I asked how that was working out for him in business and finances…

“Not very well,” he confessed.

Seasons “take time” to reap benefits and rewards, just like the food we harvest. And if you’re looking to make money, well…

[do you hear crickets?]

We went deeper in our conversation. In recent months, he’s experienced some powerful results he can actually touch. Yet, he was not showing up consistently in business on a daily basis, especially in his thinking. There were days he tuned in, and days he tuned out. Not surprising then his sporadic results, or the anxiety he felt at certain times.

When you show up as less than your best, you get “less than the best” results. When you show up as your best, you get the best results. It is Law.

I asked if he would consider “closing the gap” on his thoughts in order to transform seasonal routines into revitalized daily routines. He said, “Yes.”

Even though we naturally flow with the seasons (or quarters) we also flow with every day.

This means that every day, we get to choose how we think, how we feel, who or what we engage with, and how we go about our day.

Progress and results come from consistent belief and inspired action. (click to tweet)

A musician plays her guitar every day to master each piece of music. Note by note. Bar by bar. Page by page… Complete. Next. Repeat.

The musician does not think, “Oh, yesterday I couldn’t master that melody…” No, she says, “Today is a new day. And yesterday I set myself up for a new level of success for today.” Then she plays, and masters that piece of music. Every day she experiences tangible results she can appreciate, because every day she “shows up” for herself. Every day. Standing in possibility.

This is the power of Personal Commitment.

This is what sets The Masters apart from the rest.

Is today the day you choose to Master your success?

Karin

The House that Genius Built

I was about 4 feet tall. My Dad had built us a red and white chipboard house that would sit on the patio for us to play in. It was basically a small-scale prefab house with clips and magnets that held the walls and roof together, so he could easily store it away. Pure genius.

Of course I had “tea parties” in there. We even hooked up Hot Wheels tracks to zip cars through the window. The cat would hang out too, when it didn’t get chased by Hot Wheels cars. It was all fun and games. Then we outgrew the house and grew up, or so it seemed…

Some people forget they can have fun and get work done at the same time. They carry on with their lives with this default setting, whilst others wake up and realize both are possible. Such people deliberately choose to “reinvent” themselves, both personally and professionally. You might relate to this as “re-branding”.

Branding is not just a logo or the car we drive, it’s the story we tell the world about what we do, how we do it, and WHY we do it. Branding is the outside story that others see, hear, feel and engage with about us.

Then there’s the story we tell ourselves, which is based on our beliefs and affects anything we create (relationships, business, finances, well being).

There can be a difference between the story you tell yourself, and the story you tell the world.

Imagine a house…

Your life is the house itself… the pretty decor, the gorgeous landscaping, the tasteful furniture. The marketing collaterals, the website, the team, the office space. The friends, the toys, the relationships.
This is the story the world sees.

You are the one living inside the house… with thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about your dreams and abilities. These create the foundation that the house sits on.
This is the story you tell yourself.

What goes on inside your house?

Do you hide away in a corner and stifle yourself? Or do you breathe fun into your life while your Genius shows up for the world?

A company (or relationship) is only as strong and sustainable as its emotional foundations, which drive everything.

What is your story behind the story? (tweet this)

I hope you’re taking care of your foundations, because life is supposed to be fun.

Karin

PS: the niki owl house you see above was made about 15 years ago for my dear friend and fellow Genius, Brennan Smith.

“I haven’t felt this happy in 5 years…”

I was in conversation with a family who was about to sell their business. They also happen to be very dear friends of mine.

The parents and son couldn’t find agreement on whether to overcome their differences and keep growing this successful venture together, or part ways and sell the business because they couldn’t see eye to eye on certain details. They had lost sight of the beautiful vision they’d set out with.

They had been unable to communicate openly about what they really wanted. One would have a tendency to blow his lid, and the other two didn’t want to deal with it. So they kept passing the buck to one another, avoiding the elephant in the room and dragging out making a decision.

And yet, the love they have for one another is so obvious by how they speak about each other.

I offered to mediate between the parents and the son. My sole focus was to assist them in making a decision together on what to do with the business going forward. A decision that felt good for all.

I was there to help them focus on solutions, not the problems.

I asked them these kinds of questions:

What is important to you about your family business?

What do you want to see going forward for yourself in this business?

Why do you want what you want?

Are you willing to tell a new story about each other so you can get back on track with the excitement you started the business with?

Are you willing to tell yourself a new story about yourself, knowing that each one of you plays a key part in the success of your business?

After 2 hours of conversation with some heated moments (and a pleasant surprise) they finally put their armour down and made peace with the past. They agreed that they want to keep the business in the family, and they understand that each one has to bring their best self to the table in order for that to happen.

The following day, I saw their son and asked him how he felt after the meeting…

“I haven’t felt this happy in five years,” he replied, with a huge smile on his face. We high-fived to that.

The next day, his mother sent me a text to say they had taken the business off the market, and she shared her excitement. My heart filled up with joy.

Two days, they had their first brand strategy meeting with their new team members to decide on the story they’re telling together as a family owned business. I’m excited to see what they come up with.

This is how fast things turn around when we make ONE decision to feel good about what we’re doing.

What decision will you make today to put a spring in your step and move forward?

Karin

Which is the REAL one?

This is a barn owl…

And this is a barn owl…

barn owl

Which is the REAL barn owl?

I’d like to share a personal story with you about how we create and believe our reality.

I used to spend a lot of time with my friends at our local “Cheers” – a quaint little bistro on the outskirts of Old Town Marbella, where everyone knew our names, and we rarely had to call each other to see if we’d be there after work, because we usually were. The bistro was co-owned by a lovely couple, whom we’ll call Abby and Claire.

Around the same time, I teamed up with a marketing agency located 30 minutes away in Malaga. Their branding clients wanted SEO genius, and my SEO clients wanted additional branding genius. It was win-win for all.

I would drive out early in the mornings, and return late in the evenings because the office was in the basement of the agency founder’s townhouse, and I would often stay on to enjoy dinner with his family.

As a result, I didn’t see my friends regularly, and wasn’t up to speed with what was happening in their lives.

One Monday morning, Abby called me in a panic and asked if she could stay with me for a couple days. Apparently I was the only one she felt she could trust at the time. I called the office and told them I wouldn’t be in that day or possibly the next, and that I would be working remotely from home to take care of some personal business.

Abby arrived at my place and told me that Claire had cheated on her the night before. I was shocked, even though I knew they had experienced some rough times. My home became her safe haven for the next three days while we figured out her next steps.

Abby wanted to return to the UK immediately – she’d had enough of the tumultuous relationship. However, she was petrified of flying, so I offered to fly up with her if that would help her feel at peace during the 2 1/2 hour flight to London. She was overwhelmed at the offer, and graciously accepted it.

We flew up together, and I held her hand while she managed to relax and sleep through most of the flight. I had lunch with her at the airport in London and flew back to Malaga, returning home within 8 hours. Mission completed.

A week later, Claire invited “the gang” out for dinner to tell her side of the story. She told us the relationship had been over for quite some time, even though they were still living together and running the bistro together. Claire admitted she shouldn’t have been open about her budding new relationship yet because of those circumstances, but she also said Abby was living in denial.

I was confused. These two stories were like water and oil, yet equally delivered with powerful conviction.

I knew that if Claire had come to me asking for help first, I would have done exactly the same thing for her. Such was my loyalty towards either of them, and I share this with Claire. She was thankful that I took care of Abby. We were good.

However, I kept wondering… Who had lied? Who was telling the truth? 

Then I came to a powerful realisation.

They were both telling the truth… as they believed it to be true.

It wasn’t up to me to decide who was telling the “real” story, because each one perceived their experience based on what they believed.

The stories we tell ourselves create our reality, and we’ll feel good about it (or not), based on what we believe.

This is why I am so passionate about focusing my mind and what I tell myself, so that I can be the best version of me at all times. I am insatiable in the expression of the REAL me, because I know how empowering this is.

The REAL Me is a loving, kind, generous, well-meaning, powerful, thriving human being… Doing her best in this world to inspire others to be their best. I believe that is the REAL You too, but you have to be willing to believe that about yourself. Right?

Your dreams and the life you wish to experience depend on the stories you tell yourself.

If the story you’re living doesn’t feel good, start telling yourself a new one. It’s in your hands, and in your mind.

It’s as simple as this:

What you believe becomes what you see. First you tell the story, then the story becomes true over time. (tweet this)

Celebrating the REAL You,

Karin

From Little to Great

I’d like to share a story about what we’re capable of creating when we’re truly inspired. And, how GREAT things can happen FAST.

The largest Niki Owl came to life on July 1st, 2012. I had spent the morning with my friends watching Spain’s soccer team win their second UEFA European Championship in a row. It was also Canada Day, and Canada is very dear to me because that’s where I wrote my first book. And it was a week before my birthday, so I was feeling fully inspired by life.

I had adopted a large canvas from a neighbor a couple months before. And by large, I mean 5.5x7ft large.

I knew I wanted to put Niki Owl on it, and had already pencilled my outline on the canvas.

I knew the caption would say, “Life’s a Hoot!”

It leaned against the wall in the living room, and after my morning meditations I would sit in my comfy chair to contemplate the canvas every day. My thoughts flowed between painting a simple illustrated version of him (black on white) or a full colour version.

I would tense up a bit thinking I had to have it all figured out before I started. And that is the kind of thinking that STOPS the best ideas from flowing. So… I gave my mind space from the thing I most wanted to create.

I filled the rest of my days with meetings, SEO projects, personal development, reading in the park. Every evening I would circle back and gaze at the canvas with new eyes.

Painting the canvas seemed daunting. I was so used to drawing half inch versions of Niki Owl, not painting a 5 foot owl.

However, I could feel myself coming closer to that tipping point of giving life to my vision.

We intuitively KNOW when it is time to act with inspiration. And we instinctively know what to DO in that moment. (tweet this)

It’s no surprise then, that after I got home from watching the game I knew I would celebrate the rest of the day painting that canvas, which ultimately meant painting my largest owl to date. I also knew right then what I was going to do.

For the rest of that afternoon and night, I was switched ON.

I started at 2pm and finished at midnight. I took a twenty minute break for dinner while a dear friend came over to see how it was coming along.

I had a minor moment of panic when I felt the background looked like a mess, yet I reminded myself that sometimes things start out looking like a mess, then everything comes together nicely. Even the Masters messed up their canvases and transformed them into beautiful works of art that we pay millions for today (tweet this). It comes down to our curiosity to experiment, and our commitment to honour what feels good to create.

I felt more and more in awe as I saw the owl take shape.

Hour after hour, I painted his feathers, his beak, his feet, the grass he stands on, the outline… and the words he lives by. The largest Niki Owl literally came ALIVE in front of me – eye to eye.

When the painting felt complete, I signed it and gave myself the biggest inner high five ever. Those 8 hours felt like a breeze, because my Genius was on its best game.

Ever since then I am amazed when I look at this painting… I just want to hug him, he’s so real.

Niki Owl canvas art

What is one of your proudest moments in life? One that made your whole being come alive and think, “YES. Life IS good.”

To your Inspiration,
Karin

Photograph of “Niki Owl – Life’s a Hoot” canvas taken by the excellent Joel H. Mark.

What’s Your Happy Place?

Hello Genius,

You may have heard people talk about their “Happy Place” and I’d like to you think about what yours is for a moment. This is important as it affects everything you do.

By this, I mean your internal Happy Place, that special place where you give attention to the things that feel good to you. The things that make your world meaningful and empower you to live fully.

Your Happy Place is where you feel absolutely free and at home within. It typically involves some activity you do by yourself that is fueled by inspiration. It gives purpose and meaning to what you share of yourself with the rest of your world (including what you create, if your Happy Place means creating things like mine does for me).

My Happy Place is making niki owl and writing. By enjoying time in my Happy Place, I’m more centered and present with those around me – friends, partner, passersby, clients and co-creators.

Our Happy Place is where Genius happens best. Where our best ideas, best creations, best innovations, and best relationships are born and nourished.

You notice quickly when you’re not tending to your Happy Place, because relationships, work, creativity, finances, and your sense of being go wonky (and you can feel it clearly). The default mode is often a panicked knee-jerk reaction to get on track, and that’s tiring, isn’t it?

Just as watering plants regularly makes them grow happily, life is a much brighter place when you regularly take care of You in your Happy Place. I know this for a personal fact, and from talking to others about what makes them come alive and sustain their joy.

To quote one of the world’s most appreciated luminaries of owl time:

“The sun is wherever you want it to be.” (tweet this)

Where does the sun shine within You? And more importantly, what are you willing to do to BE in your Happy Place more?

I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.

(niki owl’s Happy Place is basking in joy and being an Ambassador of Good Will & Celebration… in the photo above you can see him embody this as he greets customers at our favourite espresso bar near Denver).

Celebrating your Happy Place,
Karin

Why?

Copyright @KarinPinter

In the business world we’re often asked to deliver our elevator pitch on what we do, what service we provide. To the point it becomes automatic, and we even build networking meetings around this to inform our loyal sales force of colleagues.

But, WHY do you do what you do?

One of my coaching clients recently did a ten minute presentation for her business networking group. She is experiencing a powerful transformation in how she shows up in her personal life and in business, fuelled by a burning desire to complete her first book. During her presentation, she briefly spoke of her services (which her peers already know pretty well) and chose to open up her heart to tell the story of WHY she does what she does. She shared powerful stories about her personal life, and what is driving her to create what she is creating now.

It was not your typical business presentation. It was a powerful opportunity to engage her colleagues in the truth about why she writes and provides this as a business service for others. They knew her services, but they didn’t all know why she does what she does, or how this really affects their business presence.

I believe the whole point of building relationships is for people to know who we are and empower us to thrive together. This means showing up authentically, speaking from the heart, being guided by our inner wisdom. It also often means doing things outside of the norm.

Most people, and therefore most businesses, function from the outside in. This is the default most of us have been trained in since our early days – find what you’re good at and do it. This may serve you to a point, but if you’re not fully present to why you’re doing it, there will be moments when life feels hollow and meaningless. If your main motivator is money, then you’re in line for a rude awakening, honey. Money is a result of your passion and commitment to delivering a particular service to your world through your Genius.

The key to most successful businesses is functioning from the inside out. Knowing who you are as a person, why you do what you do, and delivering that value to your world through your particular product or service. You could be selling coffee, helping someone plan their estate, or guiding them in the fulfillment of their life’s vision. Your why makes all the difference in who chooses to engage with your services, and inevitably impacts your success.

This is what makes Apple, Apple. This is what makes Tesla Motors, Tesla Motors. This is what makes you, You.

When you know your why and marry this awareness with what you do, then you’re serving from the inside out.

Whether you have one or several talents that make you absolutely unique, take a moment to ask yourself why you do what you do…

Why are you an accountant, a lawyer, a business manager, a nutritionist, a personal trainer, a writer, an entrepreneur, a ___________?

As for me…
I coach because having powerful conversations that ignite people’s Genius and make an impact on the world by being themselves and doing what they love, is one of the greatest honours I experience.
I design and optimise websites because I’m excited about the leverage a powerful online presence provides.
I create niki owl because that is how I express my pure joy, and this creates a beautiful ripple effect all around the world.
I write because I love the power of transformation that the written word provides.

I appreciate the bold blend of skills and talents I’ve curated over the years, because they nourish each other beautifully and I get to impact my world in many ways.

Get to the heart of your business, starting with you; this draws people closer to you than any clever marketing strategy.

People really appreciate that. Those who roll their eyes at you for being so open are simply pre-qualifying themselves not to engage in your business. Let them be.

A powerful video to watch is this TEDx Talk by Simon Sinek, if you haven’t already experienced this Genius.

This week, tell your world why you do what you do. Leave out the what or the how. I’d love to know what this reveals to you for you.

Here’s to curating your Genius,
Karin

Taking Care of Genius, No Matter What

Hello Genius,

This was written as a guest post for KindOverMatter.com, a beautiful site for the creative, independent, entrepreneurial community. KOM’s content is focused on touching the world with kindness, inspiration, gentleness, and love. I’m all for that!

I wrote about taking care of Genius, no matter what, because that is what I have found to empower me in everything I create through business, relationships, and art.

Please enjoy,

Karin