Why It’s Time to Say Goodbye to “Hard” Work

I don’t relate to the idea of “hard work”. This idea stems from a particular belief around how we integrate work and play in our lives.

I often hear business owners, entrepreneurs, creatives and high performing athletes talk – almost preach – about how hard they worked to be where they are now. And I wonder…

Is it really hard work? And who came up with that idea anyway?

The industrial revolution is far behind us, and we’re going full steam ahead with the revolution of our consciousness.

So on that note…

It’s time for a Genius Moment! Stop and ask yourself what “hard work” really means to you. Peel back the “hard” label that has been so readily slapped onto work. Who put it there to begin with? Go deeper on your personal definition and values. How would you really like work to feel? You may discover that what lies beneath is diligence, efficiency, dedication, consistency, focus, passion, inspiration… There is nothing hard about any of those, is there?

Awesome! Now ditch the thought of “hard work”!

I imagine you had some cool discoveries just now writing down what is really driving your beliefs about work.

If you believe that you create your own reality by the thoughts you think… then doesn’t it make sense to change this thought? And if you don’t think that you create your reality yet feel the strain of hardship… have you given yourself the opportunity to think and do things differently?

The simplest way to put it is this:
– Hard creates tension and struggle
– Easy creates flow and momentum

Both are habits we cultivate in the mind… How would you prefer your work to be?

Genius Moment: When you notice yourself going into “hard work” zone, STOP. Step back, take a deep breath or several, and ask yourself how you’d like this moment/project/task/day to flow… I imagine you’ll chose something like, “I want to feel good/enthusiastic/easy/awesome/inspired/fun…” Then approach what you’re doing with that refreshed energy. You can reset as many times throughout a task or work day as you need to, simply based on how you want to feel. You’ll recognise quickly when you’re not feeling that way.

Seriously, ditch “hard” completely…

Some people imbue this concept into everything they do. Even in terms of personal development. For example:

“I’ve never meditated before, it’s going to be hard for me to sit still for even 2 minutes.”

IS IT REALLY??

Because if you think it will be hard, then it will be hard, my friend. And the more you tell yourself that, the more you cement it into your mind and stop yourself from having an open experience of it. This applies to anything.

What if there were no adjective attached and it was a case of, quite simply, sitting still for 2 minutes? What if you make no projection of how it will be, and surprise yourself with however it feels and flows in that moment? Can you do that for 2 minutes?

Genius Moment: Which areas of your life do you find yourself thinking something will be “hard”, only to find that things become hard? Write down some new ways of thinking around how you’d like each area of your life to feel and flow (regardless of “how things have always been” or how others tell you things will be – that’s their experience not yours). Remember you are the creator and curator of your reality, so stop perpetuating any old funk and start creating new genius moments. Thought by thought. Moment by moment. Smile by smile.

With consistent application, you’ll soon notice the only “hard” things left in your life may simply be the hard boiled eggs you have for breakfast.

Work Hard, Play Hard = No, Gracias!

You choose.

I prefer this: Work Nice, Play Nice = Si, Gracias!

I advocate for removing the word “hard” from our thinking. I advocate for finding other words that align with how you really want to feel with what you do, because feeling good drives everything. Wouldn’t you agree?

Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below if you feel so inspired.

Be Genius,

Karin

Do You Have a Plan A?

aceHow many times have you heard someone say, “Well if Plan A doesn’t work out, I’ve got Plan B. And if that doesn’t work out, I’ve got the rest of the alphabet.” At which point I like to ask which alphabet they’re referring to (English? Cyrillic? Spanish?), and if they can say “Plan Ñ.”

More importantly, is this how you think?

I’ve never had a Plan B. My life is a constant evolution of my Plan A, with variations that match where I am personally and professionally at each stage of my life. When you can look at your life that way, you see the dots connect, and you may even see fireworks. The future also looks much clearer.

You Are a Living, Breathing Masterpiece…

Classical composers often created beautiful masterpieces with a series of variations on that theme. There could have been twenty variations, yet the core melody remained the same throughout. This is exactly how we live our lives!

You may change job or career, move city or country, change friends, change abode, yet the core of your being guides your focus and direction.

“What is Plan A anyway?”

Plan A is your personal commitment to your unique design in life and reason to be here. It guides how you apply your gifts, talents, skills and Genius to serve the world around you and feel good doing so.

Plan A is the active awareness and appreciation of who you really are.

Meanwhile, Plan B is a blinding, binding thought form that stops you from fulfilling your Plan A in all its glory. Womp womp.

“What if I don’t have a Plan A?”

I have awesome news! You DO have a Plan A even if you aren’t aware of it. It’s formed by your thoughts, beliefs, and how you channel them into what you do in this world. This is your inner guidance showing you where to go, who to meet, and how to serve. Do not get fooled by talk of Plan B!

“How do I know I’m on the right path?”

Knowing the difference is simple, and you will know which is which by how you feel:
– You can let external situations dictate where you go and what you do (this is Plan B and its delusions).
– You can have a strategy – which starts with your mindset – and move in that direction with focus and purpose (Badabing! Plan A!).

Now, I get that fear can be a kicker. But only if you let it! Behind fear there is usually a hidden message that if we look or listen closely, will show us a new level of strength, commitment and personal belief that we can use to our advantage. So the next time it shows up, ask what the real message is for you, and kiss fear adios.

“What do I do if sh** happens, or people say “No” to my Plan A?”

I respect that sometimes we require alternative actions (which are really opportunities for greater awareness and growth), as long as these are in active service to Plan A. However, if you’re using distractions, excuses and other people’s lack of belief or commitment to avoid taking a leap on your most cherished dreams, projects and visions, then you’re selling out on yourself, plain and simple. If you’re feeling doubtful then any hint of a”No” can also set you off down that rabbit hole.

A Public Service Announcement from your Mindset:

If you’re the kind of person who believes that how you think forms the reality around you (ie. you think about stressful and dramatic situations and BAM they show up for you… OR you think about how amazing your life is and BAM someone tells you what a positive impact you make in their life…), then here’s a reminder for you:

If you think more about having a Plan B, then you are inadvertently creating the circumstances and outcomes that will justify acting on Plan B instead of being fully committed to Plan A.

You’d probably enjoy better outcomes by focusing your energy, talents, gifts and Genius on Plan A, wouldn’t you?

“What about a backup plan?”

There is no “backup plan.” Your internal resourcefulness paves the way for Plan A to incorporate improvements and changes. Understanding what really motivates you gives the clarity to form and align your actions and make it happen.

Most people who dwell on Plan B usually end up living the way someone else told them to live because those people followed someone else down that path of fear and limitation or status quo, and nobody stopped to ask themselves, “Is this what I really want?” (read that sentence again please, and then one more time for good measure).

What is your plan A?

Remember, Plan A is your inner guide for personal fulfillment and purpose.

Your purpose may be to serve others as an employee, and that’s okay, because you might volunteer on the side and feel awesome doing that. Your purpose may be to create the next best thing since my mother’s brownies (which might be a stretch although I’ll still cheer you on), and use part of your income to install clean water facilities in underprivileged communities. Your purpose may be to go to those communities and help them change their mindset from underprivileged to abundant…

If you haven’t thought about it in a while, take some moments now to write out your Plan A. You may have new awareness and ideas on how to act on it:
– Start by asking yourself “Why do I do what I do?” and “Why do I want what I want?”
– Keep asking “Why” until you feel a strong answer that has no answer waiting behind it.
– Then ask if the actions you are taking are aligned with your Why.
– Then ask if the people around you are truly supporting it from an authentic place of love (and if they’re not, find new people, and keep strengthening your personal beliefs).
– Take the next best step to move in the direction of your vision.

My Plan A… Has always been to inspire joy in others and keep refining who I am so I can serve the world in greater ways {cue violins}. As a teenager it started with making greeting cards and gifts with my owl. Later on, I did it by creating websites and marketing campaigns for business owners to generate awesome revenue and serve their community (which means I serve them too behind the scenes). And now, it happens through writing books, spreading niki owl’s inspirational messages around the world, and working with people like you who want to be the best version of yourself, to use your talents, gifts, skills and Genius to create a domino effect of optimised living. In a nutshell, my core theme is a happy marriage between creativity and life optimisation, and I continually honour this and explore its variations.

What is the core theme in your life that no matter what happens, you remain focused and committed to it?

If what I’ve written today helps you expand your mind and take revived action on your Plan A, then I know I’ve done my work. And if you’d like to share what that is, comment on this post below or send me an email. I would love to hear from you.

Now go Ace your Plan A.

In Gratitude and Appreciation,

Karin

PS: Thank you Nicky for the reminder on drilling down the “Why.”

How does your business really thrive?

It’s simple… nurture your relationships, Genius.

My web design business took off in 2003 based on the relationships I’d built working a regular 9-5 job in an SEO company. Those clients wanted ME to continue doing the work for them, not somebody else.

In 2012, I reached out to my network to announce that I was writing my first book – something I’d always wanted to do, procrastinated on very well, and finally gave myself permission to make it happen.

One of the people in my network, Wendy Taylor (of Taylor & Scott), immediately jumped up to help me out. Her copywriting and PR skills were evolving into her own passion to help authors with their book manuscripts. We had a conversation about it and decided we were a fit.

You never know who is going to reach back when you reach out. (tweet this)

Which really goes to show how powerful our networks are, and how strong relationships can become simply by asking and sharing what we’re up to. Wendy and I have become great friends by working together.

Wendy recently interviewed me about our experience together, since she’s writing her own book now as well. We also share tips on the author’s journey.

Read the interview here.

Nurture Your Network Checklist:
– How do you nurture your business relationships?
– How many times have you relied on your network to support your new ventures, projects and desires?
– How do you support one another in times of “need”?
– How often has someone in your network surprised you and become one of your best cheerleaders?

Gratitude Tip: Pick someone in your network and thank them today for what they’ve done for you. Hey, it might just make their day.

I’m happy you’re here,

Karin

My Biggest Leap of Faith & What I’ve Learned So Far

Some anniversaries are quickly forgotten. Others are meant to be honoured because of the power they hold as reminders of how far we’ve come when we didn’t think we could do something.

This boarding pass marks the anniversary of my biggest leap of faith, which I took on this day in 2008. It’s important for me to pay tribute to it every year, because it put me fully on course with my dreams, my desires, and my purpose.

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Part of the journey, like any flight, has had clouds and moments of turbulence. For the most part it has been filled with pure awe, delight, curiosity, new perspectives and more love than I could have imagined that day I set foot on the plane in Malaga, on my way to London, destination Vancouver. Two suitcases, a guitar, a handful of drum sticks, and a heart full of wonder and excitement.

A new world opened up for me, which was really a reflection of me opening up to the world.

Some of the golden nuggets I’ve collected so far:

Home is a state of being, not a place (although having one that reflects our state of being is a wonderful thing).

Courage comes from being fully invested in what makes your heart open wide. People have often told me how strong and courageous I am for leaving what I knew for something new and arriving there by myself, several times (they seem to remind me most when I have felt it the least). You can do it too.

Resilience requires release. Release of fear, of anxiety, of the things we learned growing up that no longer serve us now, and obscured our vision of ourselves. You gain so much by lightening the emotional baggage.

Faith fuels clarity and vision. We never know who will stay the course with us, or for how long. Letting go of certain people may shake us to the core at times. The key is for you to stay the course for yourself.

Trust your intuition and change your course as it feels best for you. You’re not letting anybody down by doing so. People who really care for your well being will understand, and they will help you get there. You will also encounter mind-blowing generosity from strangers and people you didn’t realise care that much about you.

Vulnerability shows us how strong we really are, especially when faced with adversity. It also shows us who we can share our biggest dreams and deepest concerns with, acting as the emotional gauge for our support network.

Create anew no matter where you are. Every place, every person is a reflection of what you’ve been inviting into your life. If it doesn’t feel right, give yourself the opportunity to understand what you’ve been inviting, change whatever needs to be changed, and do it lovingly. Remember change stems from how you think.

Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
– Mark Twain

For all of you who I have met, whether briefly or we’re actively “travelling together”, you are cherished. No matter how seemingly small or random our connection may appear to you, it is great in my mind. You have impacted me in so many ways, and I can only hope that my presence in your life offers you some form of inspiration also.

May you believe you can do that thing you want to do, and do it. (tweet this)

May your greatest dreams come true in this lifetime, because that’s what we’re here for. (tweet this)

And may you keep taking leaps of faith,

Karin

Do you have a special anniversary or leap of faith you’d like to celebrate? Share it in the comments below…

A Letter to My Deceased iMac & Thoughts on Our Real Relationship with Technology

Whilst some people idolize technology for the technology itself (and go berserk if it breaks), the truth is there is actually a different kind of relationship here that yearns for conscious attention (though I’m not referring to “her“).

In keeping with my usual positive thinking/spiritual approach to life, this post is an ode to a piece of technology that has journeyed with me through various life experiences that I’ve been able to document with it, and create anew from. It is also an invitation for you to check in with how you relate to the technology you use, and to be grateful for what it offers. I’ve summed mine up with a short letter:

Dear Early 2008 24” iMac,

In six months you would have been considered “vintage” in the Mac world, but alas your logic board began to faint, taking with it your magic as you stretched for more time to make one final backup… Whilst I teetered between trying to fix you (paying more in the long run) and letting you go to Mac Heaven (which I decided to do), I fondly remember you now as my shiny, faithful sidekick:

As a newly arrived Spaniard in Vancouver, you helped me settle into a fabulous life there while I figured out my bigger design and purpose in life. You doubled up as my creative tool and my TV when I didn’t have cable.

You travelled via FedEx to meet me in LA when I arrived there, not knowing what to do because I couldn’t figure out how to stay in Canada and Life had (somewhat painfully) said I needed to be somewhere else.

You hopped around West Hollywood with me as I started a new life from the ground up, shed some of my past, and proudly helped me design my first niki owl book.

You recently hopped on a moving truck to meet me in Forth Worth (Texas y’all??) and helped me design another book about Love that’s coming out in February, while I continue to write the adventures of niki owl.

And now, I must let you go my friend, one month shy of 5 years since I left my homeland and precisely the day Mac celebrates 30 years. I’d say you’ve come full circle with me finding and co-creating the purpose I’d been seeking.

Thank you for the fun times, the vastness of your screen that made looking at things so much more delightful, and for being so damn sexy (because good design & good technology are sexy).

Thank you for your service, dear iMac. And thank you for the memories.

See the Gift in every situation…

When you’re in a similar situation with a device, do you blindly go into a panic or stress over the perceived loss of having put “all your life on it”… or do you choose to honour the experiences you’ve had that it supported you in documenting and sharing with others? How easy is it for you to let things go?

Tweet this: “We don’t hold onto things for the things themselves, but for the memories & experiences we create with them.”

(and thankfully, we make backups of our intellectual property that we can share for others to make their own memories with)

As for me, yes I’ll miss the big screen… but I have my trusty laptop, and on the flip side I now have more space on my desk to write on paper, which I love (ya, I still do that).

Keep creating, no matter what,

Karin

How do you choose to see technological challenges in your life? Share your comments below or on Facebook.

The Transformative Power of a Good Story

A client recently came to me with his concerns about letting go of stress in negative situations. For the sake of privacy, we’ll call him Arthur.

Arthur’s default was to go into anger and flip out when things aren’t going his way, which of course never really helped resolve anything in the moment. He was looking to feel more at ease even when things are going ape shape around him.

Can you relate to Arthur?

Here’s the situation he came to me with:
Arthur had taken his car to the mechanic with some problems, but he also wanted to fix miscellaneous things as well. The mechanic fixed those bits but did nothing about the main problem. This caused setbacks for Arthur at work (he’s in the tech industry and he was working on time sensitive projects). The mechanic ended up charging him for the small things and still needed to address the big problem.

Arthur felt angry. Frustrated. Out of control. Upset. He reprimanded the mechanic. Arthur just wanted to get his car and leave at whatever cost, and didn’t know how to deal with it.

How would you prefer to feel instead?

Arthur’s desired outcome was to be more professional, and step away without stressing after the fact. He wanted to let it go. Feel more calm, fulfilled, and as though it was not a big deal.

We ran a simple exercise to help him shift from a state of anger into his desired state of being. I wrote this into a short story, which further deepened the long-term impact of this change for Arthur to strengthen his new way of being in such situations.

You can read it here.

How differently you would like to feel about something? Tell me in your comments below or via email and we can write a new story for you together.

There’s real power behind a good story,

Karin

 

My Wishes For You & The Story of 12 Grapes

I’m going to cut to the chase and sum up 2013 before welcoming 2014 (and wonder how that phrase was coined later).

To everyone who entrusted their website or web presence with me, and felt revitalised through the process – thank you.

To everyone who bought one of my books, and discovered something new – thank you.

To everyone who coached with me, and found renewed faith in their abilities – thank you.

To everyone who downloaded the PDFs I created, and found inspiration from them – thank you.

That’s my gratitude  for 2013.

And now, my wishes for 2014 PLUS a fun fact…

I was born and raised in Spain. The tradition there is to ring in the New Year by eating a grape for every toll of the bell at midnight. Each grape represents luck for each month, and we are encouraged to successfully eat all 12 grapes so that we can enjoy good luck throughout the entire year.

I challenge you to try this (and hereby include a disclaimer to accept no responsibility for the outcomes – please chew consciously, seedless grapes or raisins will do). Let me know how that goes for you!

My wish for you is to take a stand for your deepest desires this coming year. Act on them so you and your loved ones can fully enjoy every moment, and grow from the moments that may not feel so good. Let’s keep the focus on “good feeling moments” though, since they build on one another.

My wish for myself is to strengthen the muscles I’ve been exercising this year to serve and inspire more people than I could possibly imagine. To help my body keep up with that, I get my protein shakes here.

If you’re wondering how else to start rocking this next year, here is my recommended reading list (these books helped me get 2013 into full swing):

The Desire Map, by Danielle LaPorte
Out of this I discovered my core desired feelings, which helped me consciously match my lifestyle to them: Radiant, Elegant, Authentic, Lavish, Vital.
(I’ll see how these evolve for 2014)

Money: A Love Story, by Kate Northrup
Out of the course that came before the book, I gained a lot of insight about the stories I had grown up with around money and how they had been affecting me. I also met my partner. Unexpected bonus?? You betcha!

May Cause Miracles, by Gabrielle Bernstein
Out of this I learned to forgive myself, and ask for help when I needed it instead of trying to do everything by myself. Gave me a whole new meaning for the word “surrender.” Powerful.

The Big Leap, by Gay Hendricks
Out of this I was able to identify how I had been “upper limiting” myself from moving forward. The answers are so simple.

It just goes to show how important books are to act as catalysts for change.

However you choose to close out 2013 and invite 2014 into your life, remember it starts with a renewed perspective of You.

How would you like to see yourself evolve this next year? Share your answer in the comments…

Karin

Did You Forget About It?

A year ago this week I launched my first book. From this 1999 manuscript, to this one last summer, to the actual book…

niki owl manuscripts

It only took me 14 years to make my biggest dream happen and turn an almost-forgotten manuscript into something I could be proud of.

This manuscript travelled the world with me, like that special photo you keep in your wallet no matter what. I kept thinking about that, and my cartoon owl niki. Every now and then I would dabble with both.

A lot of people have asked me how I finally did it, and whilst some of the steps were easier than others, the answer is simple;

I had enough of the pain of NOT doing it, which caused me to re-think my life, my career, and what else I could give of value to others (beyond building websites).

– I passionately brought down some old walls and ways of thinking that had blocked me from taking my own leap of faith, and I crossed the tipping point to embrace my pure joy of creating.

– And then… I created.

Moral of this story: Never let anyone dictate your beliefs around which of your dreams can come true. And never underestimate your own powers of creation (I wrote the book in three weeks).

Heed the Call Within…

If there’s something in you that keeps asking for attention, like a memory of something you used to do that still lights you up when you think about it, please stop for a moment and ask yourself what that really is.

Give it room to breathe, let it speak to you, allow it live more fully in your imagination. Come home within yourself. See yourself doing that thing, feeling good about it, and then start moving towards whatever “it” is.

For me, this was a cute and witty owl I had created to put on greeting cards and make people smile, and a collection of stories to help others find positivity and inspiration in their own lives. I put the two together, polished them up, and suddenly I had something new to look forward to, which makes even more people smile.

My career in design made “making” the book so much easier. I had started to look at that career with some resentment, like a forced deviation from my original path of creativity, but it turned out to be a blessing in disguise that actually gave me the tools I needed to make it all happen.

How to Navigate the Tempting Pitfalls…

– When doubt and fear pop up like mushrooms, remember niki owl’s words, “I can, I want to, and I will.”
(those are the words my Dad used to tell me about attitude and ability)

– Get in touch (and stay in touch) with your desires.

– Do not let anger or resentment from past circumstances taint what you rekindle to get started now. In moments like that: practice gratitude.

About that Gratitude…

Say it often. Share it openly. Give it freely. Like this:

Thank You to everyone who’s on this journey with me (and those yet to join), you have no idea what it means to me. As an extra Thank You, I’m gifting you with a special story I wrote for this holiday season. It’s filled with imagination, wit, and inspiration. Yours to enjoy by the fireplace, fire pit or the beach. With or without the kids. Download it here.

As my “fellow” Spaniard Pablo Picasso also said:
“Everything you can imagine is real.”

Curious about what I’m making real these days?
– The next niki owl book in the series is due out Summer 2014 (he’s got his own mailing list, with free treats). If you haven’t read Book 1 yet, fly over here to grab your copy and then join the niki owl book club!

– While that hatches, I have something else for you in the next weeks; a book with some lessons I learned along the way, co-created with my friend and colleague, photographer Joel H. Mark (get on the mailing list for sneak previews and release information).

– AND, more tools to help you make good things happen for yourself.

Now go imagine, and make it real.
Karin

What had you almost forgotten that you love doing, that you’d like to start again now? Share your answers & insights below…

Great, Full, and Grateful

We didn’t really celebrate Thanksgiving growing up in Spain, even though my mother is American.

And it wasn’t until I spent my first fall in Canada that I realised they celebrate it a month earlier there. Which is great, because I now get to celebrate it twice in a year.

But of course, being grateful is a regular, conscious act…

As some of us prepare to celebrate our gratitude with heightened awareness this week, I want to remind you to be grateful for yourself as well. Indulge in the gratitude you receive from others and share with them, but remember it starts with You. Remember all the wonderful things you’ve achieved for yourself, your qualities, the things you truly love about yourself (narcissists be mindful). Give yourself a pat on the back. These are the things others Love about you too.

And if you’d like to be cute about your gratitude, I made something special you can download here.

May your Thanksgiving celebrations be great, full, and grateful.

Have a great and grateful Thanksgiving,

Karin

 

 

How do you like to share your gratitude with others? Comment below…

What’s In Your Emotional Archive? {Plus 5 Steps to Clear It}

We all collect stuff – books, clothing, friends, careers, knowledge, thoughts, emotions…

They start with the values and beliefs we formed during childhood, which got categorized by matching experiences, like a well-organized library.

So, when things seem bent out of shape – you got fired or “let go”, your health took a turn for the “worse”, and things just don’t seem to be working out… it’s time to review what’s really going on within.

Look through your emotional archives, and the stories you can let go of to clear the soul clutter.

Fun Fact: some people think this kind of work will bring up tons of emotions they can’t handle. Truth is, you’ve been carrying them all your life, you just didn’t know how to let go of them. Seeing the truth behind their creation provides laser awareness for faster release and adaptation. Power to you, my friend. Time to shed the weight of the world and feel light again.

In the words of Iyanla Vanzant: “Feel. Deal. Heal.”

{Cue: Pen & Paper – keep these handy when we’re hanging out together}

1. Explore the Emotional Archives
Do you lean more into thoughts that are negative, blame-filled, guilt-ridden, or overwhelming?
Write them out and let your soul breathe. You’re being honest with yourself here, and you’re acing it.

Once you see this list on paper, ask yourself, “What are the intentions behind these thoughts?”
See them for what they really are. Are they misdirected intentions that were keeping you from showing up fully as your best self? “Best” being the ego-free, loving joyous best You.

2. Check The References in Each Volume
You may encounter the typical biggies: fear, anger, sadness, hurt, guilt… it’s safe to let them surface, even better to ask them where they really came from. They may throw excuses up to distract you, so just keep asking, gently. You’re looking for cues in your early childhood here.

Were they formed by someone else’s energy or thoughts that “became” yours, and never really felt good to you?

You may discover these weighted emotions were ‘etched in’ a long time ago. For example, that afternoon while you were minding your own peacefulness playing with your teddy bear, your parents may have been arguing about something that had nothing to do with you. Yet, the energy of that moment made such a deep, distorted impact on your soul and wrote itself into your future behaviours that served the pain experience, instead of the joy experience.

For me it was communication – for a long time I couldn’t express myself open-heartedly because my references growing up were either tense silence, or outbursts of anger. I had to learn the healthy in-between of compassionate communication. And it started by having compassionate conversations with myself. When things get challenging, I start there.

If you feel you’d like additional guidance in this phase, we can work it out together.

Now that you’ve discovered what was going on behind the scenes, you can clear the slate of those emotions.

3. Write a New Book
Write down the wonderful qualities you remember about yourself now. Include words, pictures, sounds, places that make your heart smile and your soul sing. Expand on each one as you feel guided. And remember, this is a judgement-free zone. For extended guidance on accessing what feels good, start desire mapping).

4. Read Yourself New Bedtime Stories
Put these cues somewhere you can see, hear or repeat them to yourself regularly. We all know that daily practices make for faster transformation, right?

5. Congratulate Yourself
You’re turning pages and starting a whole new chapter. Life is good, isn’t it?

Let’s all stand and deliver clarity,

Karin

Check back in here and let me know how your discovery phase is helping you…