The Transformative Power of a Good Story

A client recently came to me with his concerns about letting go of stress in negative situations. For the sake of privacy, we’ll call him Arthur.

Arthur’s default was to go into anger and flip out when things aren’t going his way, which of course never really helped resolve anything in the moment. He was looking to feel more at ease even when things are going ape shape around him.

Can you relate to Arthur?

Here’s the situation he came to me with:
Arthur had taken his car to the mechanic with some problems, but he also wanted to fix miscellaneous things as well. The mechanic fixed those bits but did nothing about the main problem. This caused setbacks for Arthur at work (he’s in the tech industry and he was working on time sensitive projects). The mechanic ended up charging him for the small things and still needed to address the big problem.

Arthur felt angry. Frustrated. Out of control. Upset. He reprimanded the mechanic. Arthur just wanted to get his car and leave at whatever cost, and didn’t know how to deal with it.

How would you prefer to feel instead?

Arthur’s desired outcome was to be more professional, and step away without stressing after the fact. He wanted to let it go. Feel more calm, fulfilled, and as though it was not a big deal.

We ran a simple exercise to help him shift from a state of anger into his desired state of being. I wrote this into a short story, which further deepened the long-term impact of this change for Arthur to strengthen his new way of being in such situations.

You can read it here.

How differently you would like to feel about something? Tell me in your comments below or via email and we can write a new story for you together.

There’s real power behind a good story,



Did You Forget About It?

A year ago this week I launched my first book. From this 1999 manuscript, to this one last summer, to the actual book…

niki owl manuscripts

It only took me 14 years to make my biggest dream happen and turn an almost-forgotten manuscript into something I could be proud of.

This manuscript travelled the world with me, like that special photo you keep in your wallet no matter what. I kept thinking about that, and my cartoon owl niki. Every now and then I would dabble with both.

A lot of people have asked me how I finally did it, and whilst some of the steps were easier than others, the answer is simple;

I had enough of the pain of NOT doing it, which caused me to re-think my life, my career, and what else I could give of value to others (beyond building websites).

– I passionately brought down some old walls and ways of thinking that had blocked me from taking my own leap of faith, and I crossed the tipping point to embrace my pure joy of creating.

– And then… I created.

Moral of this story: Never let anyone dictate your beliefs around which of your dreams can come true. And never underestimate your own powers of creation (I wrote the book in three weeks).

Heed the Call Within…

If there’s something in you that keeps asking for attention, like a memory of something you used to do that still lights you up when you think about it, please stop for a moment and ask yourself what that really is.

Give it room to breathe, let it speak to you, allow it live more fully in your imagination. Come home within yourself. See yourself doing that thing, feeling good about it, and then start moving towards whatever “it” is.

For me, this was a cute and witty owl I had created to put on greeting cards and make people smile, and a collection of stories to help others find positivity and inspiration in their own lives. I put the two together, polished them up, and suddenly I had something new to look forward to, which makes even more people smile.

My career in design made “making” the book so much easier. I had started to look at that career with some resentment, like a forced deviation from my original path of creativity, but it turned out to be a blessing in disguise that actually gave me the tools I needed to make it all happen.

How to Navigate the Tempting Pitfalls…

– When doubt and fear pop up like mushrooms, remember niki owl’s words, “I can, I want to, and I will.”
(those are the words my Dad used to tell me about attitude and ability)

– Get in touch (and stay in touch) with your desires.

– Do not let anger or resentment from past circumstances taint what you rekindle to get started now. In moments like that: practice gratitude.

About that Gratitude…

Say it often. Share it openly. Give it freely. Like this:

Thank You to everyone who’s on this journey with me (and those yet to join), you have no idea what it means to me. As an extra Thank You, I’m gifting you with a special story I wrote for this holiday season. It’s filled with imagination, wit, and inspiration. Yours to enjoy by the fireplace, fire pit or the beach. With or without the kids. Download it here.

As my “fellow” Spaniard Pablo Picasso also said:
“Everything you can imagine is real.”

Curious about what I’m making real these days?
– The next niki owl book in the series is due out Summer 2014 (he’s got his own mailing list, with free treats). If you haven’t read Book 1 yet, fly over here to grab your copy and then join the niki owl book club!

– While that hatches, I have something else for you in the next weeks; a book with some lessons I learned along the way, co-created with my friend and colleague, photographer Joel H. Mark (get on the mailing list for sneak previews and release information).

– AND, more tools to help you make good things happen for yourself.

Now go imagine, and make it real.

What had you almost forgotten that you love doing, that you’d like to start again now? Share your answers & insights below…

What Is Your Body Telling You? Health Restoration Practices

I’m passionate about self healing, and with my own experiences of it. I often wonder how some forms of dis-ease manifested, and how people deal with them from the inside out.

Any time I have experienced a health challenge, it has served as a strong reminder for conscious self care, starting from within.

Here are some things I learned for myself, and in working with others through their healing process:

1. Ask Where This Came From
Your body is talking to you. And if you’re at a point of extreme challenge, then your body is screaming with the urgency to be heard. I gain clarity by asking to uncover the real motivators of the experience, and then act on my new awareness. You may have to ask several times, until your awareness opens up to the root cause.

Sometimes I find my thoughts were out of alignment with feeling good, or something comes up from the past that offers new insights for me to grow from…

Re-store your self love, it’s what your body is really asking for.

2. Create a Habit of Healthy Thoughts
This type of experience is a reminder that what we think, so we create, and we would do better to think more loving thoughts, because you never know how things will show up. Personally, I like good things to show up.

Unfavourable thoughts and their related “negative” emotions, or the tiny residual thoughts that may have built up slowly over time are what create challenges that appear in physical form (or external circumstances). Remember; just as the constant rubbing of sand can irritate your foot… so can it create a magnificent pearl.

This is not a cue for guilt trips, and certainly not to say you brought anything upon yourself. It’s simply a benchmark to start fresh. The beauty is, we can change our thoughts at any moment. Even now. And now. And… you get it.

3. Let Go of the Attachment to the Dis-ease
Whilst there may be a shock factor to some news you receive, this is an opportunity to shake off what’s not working. Remember this is not a sentence but an awakening.

People will say they “have cancer”. They will even add “my” to the condition. STOP. I’m not saying to live in denial of what’s going on, but you can choose a new association with health. You might take a big leap of faith or build small steps towards this – scale up as you feel best for you. Just take your next step with love.

What people “have” is the experience of mental/emotional misalignment showing up in their bodies. The body is bringing this to our attention, in extreme ways for some, so we can clear the slate and focus on health.

4. Hold the Vision of Health – Your life is Your Domain
See yourself as healthy now. Hold that vision for yourself. Own and manifest the internal healing, while others – like a surgeon, if you’re at a stage that requires one – support you with the “technical” aspects.

For me, it also helps that I give myself Reiki. Tapping is pretty awesome too.  Learn how to speed up your healing. Lean into holistic restoration and internal guidance.

5. Words Carry Super Powers – Use them Wisely
Of course you want your health restored ASAP. We all want that for you too.

But do you use words like: “fight, attack, aggressive treatment,” when you talk about how you’re going to approach your healing process? Are they words you use on a daily basis for other things? How do those words sit in your body? Notice where the energy goes…

How about healing through: “loving release, laser precision, almighty speed, gratitude and… yes, forgiveness.”

Yes, there may be challenging moments. And it’s okay to air out anger, fear, resentment, or whatever you may feel. They are part of the awareness of making new choices out of love (not fear), and help us build resilience whilst we lean into the health we manifest.

Consider these words attributed to Mother Teresa, “I will never attend an anti-war rally; if you have a peace rally, invite me. I am learning that if you focus on what you want, (peace) instead of what you don’t want, (war) you will receive it in abundance!”

For the love of your health, soften up your words, please.

6. What Other Feelings Can You Invite Along This Journey?
How would you like to feel throughout the restoration of your health? Find words that feel good, healthy, revitalising, nourishing. Give yourself permission to move through this process with as much ease, grace, and soul awareness as possible.

In his book, “A New Earth”, Eckhart Tolle refers to healing the pain-body, “…not through fighting it but through bringing the light of consciousness to it.”

7. Surround Yourself With Loving People
Be mindful of who you invite on this journey. It may not be for the faint of heart, so be sure your champions are coming from a place of confidence, purity, love, abundance and are committed to participating in the collective healing.

If you, brave soul, are experiencing a deeply challenging health concern, know that whilst we may never meet, I hold you in the highest loving light of your well being. And I hope these words encourage you to hold yourself there too.

Let’s stand and deliver health,


Additional reads from Lissa Rankin M.D. (she’s awesome):
10 Myths About Self Healing Debunked
The Worst Thing Your Doctor Can Do
Have You Learned Helplessness As a Patient?

How have you or someone you know overcome health challenges?

One of “those” people…

During a recent conversation with a friend who I don’t see that often, she confessed that she was, “Doing yoga but not really talking much about it, because I don’t want to be one of those people who talks about it all the time.”

Whilst time was short and we didn’t delve into what that really meant or what drew her to this practice, her apprehension around revealing this aspect of her personal evolution triggered my curiosity. I sensed a fear of judgment, and perhaps loss of individuality.

I think of it as “closeted spirituality.”

And I can say this – without judgment – because I’ve been there myself.

Be curious, not judgmental - Walt Whitman

My main reference growing up was “light Catholic” – we had a home full of books and my dad constantly encouraged us to open our minds. When he noticed I was getting bored of attending mass, he put a book about Buddhism in front me and said, “Here, read this. Take what you need from everything that you learn. Create your own personal blend.”

At first, I tiptoed around nurturing my spirituality. It wasn’t something most of my friends at the time had any interest in exploring for themselves.

I was in awe of other people who knew more than I did, but I was afraid to ask. I explored Reiki and new forms of meditation with some people who seemed clear-intentioned but then veered off in a concerning direction. For a time, I felt like I lived a double life as I secretly explored this spiritual avenue whilst showing up for my day job in the tech world.

I felt spiritually isolated until Life hauled me out of that dynamic.

After this, I took time out from my spiritual curiosity until I felt I was “safe” with others whose perspectives supported my evolving awareness as it felt right for me. With each one came a new mentor who helped me peel off the layers. I was able to integrate spirituality within my lifestyle, and be open about it – such a relief.

Fact: you will not lose your Self within group consciousness, provided you’re involved in a healthy community that understands and encourages your desires, which actually means you get to shine brighter.

Fact: If others label you as one of those people who is in reality taking ownership of their deepest curiosities and openly sharing this for communal benefit… then they’re not your kind of people, are they?

We’ve got to start somewhere. It could be meditation, yoga, reading different books, attending nondenominational spiritual gatherings, embracing silence, confiding in a trusted friend or learning to ask without fear of ridicule… whatever feels like a natural next step for you is fine.

By trusting your own process, you release fear of judgment.

When we put more thought and energy into what others think, we inadvertently give them the power to approve or disapprove our actions. And that’s no healthy way to live your life, is it?

Certain people may not be in tune with who you are today. You may have walked along the same path for a while until you both veered off onto your own, which lead in different directions. You can still love them from a different place in your heart, and enjoy meeting at the intersections if they come up.

Honour where you stand now.

You will not “lose” anyone: Life will simply remove people from your path who are no longer in tune or of active service to your personal growth. It may hurt for a while as you adjust. You’ll be fine, and so will they.

You will gain: awareness, other people (or a new way to relate with your existing connections), resilience and confidence.

Ultimately, you will become one of those people who is willing to speak up. You will also draw closer those who resonate with you at a deeper level, who are ready, willing and able to help you along with inspired action.

You will go from self absorbed to self aware.

And that, my friends, is powerful.

It’s safe to come out. It’s safe to be one of those people who is openly curious about their personal development and is willing to show up, share, and invite.

This brief conversation with my friend has been timely for me. I have not wanted to be one of those people who refers to themselves as a coach, although the word (spoken by others) has made its way into conversation as more people come to me for guidance, and our interactions help us evolve individually, together.

I’m getting cozy with walking it and talking it, which is exactly what you’re doing in your own way, so guess what?

You’re one of those people, and so am I, since we’re all connected.

Be proud of your awakenings, because there are too many people living in soul-slumber who need us to show them it’s safe to come out too.

Rise and Shine, my Friends.


How has releasing yourself from judgment helped you unfold and take new leaps of faith? The conscious flow happens below (that was an unintended rhyme)…

Stick With Me, Kid…

I’ve spent most of my life working “behind the scenes” on other people’s projects. Every now and then I would step into the limelight, but it was usually a cameo appearance. I’m generally the guardian, you might say, of other people’s treasures and gifts to the world (does that sound presumptuous? …meh).

Since I fully stepped into my writer’s shoes (I opted for 5 inch heels to make writing feel rock star sexy), I’ve felt a shift in terms of who I prefer to work with, and who Universe is presenting me with.

I’ll admit I’ve struggled a bit with the concept of the path of least resistance, because I’ve been so used to doing things by myself and I feel that in certain moments we grow by stretching through the resistance… however, I’m easing up on who comes to me as a direct result of my ‘asking’ for support, because I understand there are certain things I either have no interest in learning how to do, or have come to my wits end doing them myself, and letting go makes room for creativity AND community. Thanks to those who’ve shown up so far, you’re golden.

The key is being able to discern who are the best people to integrate within a growing team, because really it’s about how we co-create together. For this, grounding and awareness are essential. Much as I like to fly high in my dreams while I sharpen my vision of how I can be of better service to others, it serves me to know that the people who are working with me the closest are also in alignment with my values. It’s not a selfish thing, rather a self-ISH approach as it’s been beautifully coined.

Work with those who complement you, and who share the mutual compliments.

Experience has reminded me that when we just pick someone out of desperation or perceived limited choice, it doesn’t always work out very well. It has also taught me that some people show up for a short period of time to connect us with those who will stay longer.

We’re often told that our achievements are influenced by who we spend most of our time with. And this is not to discount or discredit anyone in our lives who may not be ‘up to par’ with our aspirations, since we’re all on this journey together, and we’re in each others’ lives to learn from one another in different capacities.

Still, I encourage you to be more mindful of who is in your life – from friends to business relations. What language are they using (negative and constrictive, or positive and constructive)? How do you really feel in their presence or after spending time together? How do they talk to you about other people? How do they “show up,” especially when faced with challenging situations? Do they rise to the occasion or hide away and point the blame at others? (no judgements behind these questions – they’re simply here to get you looking more attentively)

If you’re building long term plans, be clear on your desires, and invite people into your life who support you with inspired action. And who also have a good sense of where they’re going.

For me, active support can come in the form of words of encouragement, asking how my book is doing, connecting me with people who can build the bigger picture together (did someone say “Empire”?), sharing new tools, and being open to new ideas so I can help them with theirs. My soul thrives on mutual enrichment.

I’ve noticed some people will help only as much as they want you to grow for their benefit, and if there’s a hint of you growing beyond them there will be subtle or obvious knee-jerk reactions to keep you where they’re at. This may be a conscious or subconscious act they are not aware of (yet) and therefore of no malicious intent (hopefully). Be very mindful of these energies and interactions though, or you might find yourself being led down their path and off your own. Especially when you’re stepping into new shoes as they require some adjustment…

Granted, sometimes we veer off course, and these moments serve to imbue us with renewed passion or insight when we get back on track. However, once you’ve veered off a few times and realised how much this takes away from you showing up to share your gifts with the world, then you’ll be more aware of potential diversions and make better choices for yourself and who you engage with.

Helping someone with their aspirations may take on a different priority with you. It doesn’t mean you’re not there for them 100% – but it will be a different version of 100% based on what you’re giving to yourself in support of your desires, which you can use to further support their desires in new ways…

This creates a beautiful infinite loop of gifting and receiving, gauging generosity to yourself and others for everyone’s best interests.

Purify your intentions – these will guide you to the people best suited for you, and open new avenues of opportunity.

Valuing yourself and having people on your team who are in alignment with theirs are keys to healthy relationships and project development.

For me, those people need to have integrity, be honest, eager to learn and co-create a healthy community in which each person’s individuality is respected, honoured AND fulfilled for the greater good of all.

Who’s on your team?


How does clarifying your vision and intentions help you support others with theirs? Share your insights below…

For The Love of Your Life

I’m sharing this deeply personal experience that I call my “Titanic moment” as a reminder of what can happen when you ignore your inner guidance (or “~ing”). May my story serve you to get back on track if you’ve strayed.

What you need to know about me first

I fell in love with Canada a few years ago and decided to follow my heart there, leaving my life in Spain as I knew it. I cashed in major sunshine for the rich rainforests of Vancouver. You see, we often outgrow the place where we were born. Then we find another place we consciously choose to call home because we connect so deeply with it, so we uproot and relocate. And that place, for me, is Vancouver.

I also didn’t finish school (that’s another story). I built my career through hands-on training and dedication to help people put their businesses online. No client has ever asked me to show them a piece of paper to prove I can do what I do. I just do it. And people like it. And they benefit from it. Refer, repeat, thank you. So I never took time out to get a piece of paper to prove that I was qualified – because I already am by experience, right?

What I forgot while I was building and marketing websites for other people was to honour my personal desire to write books. I told myself I was being creative because I developed their sites, but I was pushing off the real expression of my personal creativity. In the back of my mind I also heard my dad’s words, “Get a good career that pays the bills, and then you can be a writer…” so I did, because that’s what seemed best at the time.

A fateful decision

Fours years ago today I submitted my work permit application in Canada, because of my wholehearted commitment to be a fully participating member of the community.

I was coming down the escalator at YVR, with the waterfall behind me and my heart full of anticipation. I could see the Visitors line up ahead, and the Visa Applications to my right.

I could have walked in as a regular visitor, and spent a little time figuring out some of the details that my gut was telling me needed attention…

Instead, I listened to the voice in my head that said, “But you told everyone that you were going to do this… so you better do it. And you have a great job offer, you’ll be fine.”

Since I was determined to live up to my word, and admittedly felt massive fear of rejection that overpowered my discernment, I went against my gut feeling.

And of course, since Universal Law has proven that you get what you focus on…

My application was politely turned down due to my “lack of education” (where’s the tick box for “worldly education,” “lifetime experience” and honest-to-goodness “I have a lot to give, just let me show you”?). Mixed with employment concerns in the local market, you might say the odds were not in my favour at the time.

Please note, I am not knocking the system, but I’ve learned to appreciate that the entire global process needs to look at people more closely… like in-their-souls closely. Can we make it happen please?

That sinking feeling

Suddenly, I didn’t fit in on paper, although I was given some time to sort it out.

Still, the initial rejection hit me hard – my confidence, my sense of worth, my decision-making abilities, and my self-trust all felt it. Emotionally, I had hit the iceberg and my ship was about to take on water fast… If I couldn’t stay here, then where would I go? I left my hometown because I had outgrown it, and Vancouver was the only place I wanted to be.

I did everything I could to stay afloat, to carry on as usual while I figured things out. Even though I asked friends for help and guidance (which they lovingly provided) I felt very lonely. In this hazy race against time I made decisions based more on fear than anything else. Much as there were some beautiful moments, it was also the toughest and heaviest time of my life. I felt like a bird that’s stopped singing.

After my ship hit the sea bed, I ended up moving to Los Angeles, which helped me unravel, sit with my raw emotions, take deep subconscious diving excursions to blow limiting beliefs out of the water, find healing in the sunshine and anonymity of a new place… and build myself up again. I gave myself the space to reconnect with my forgotten dreams, and to embrace my personal creativity with renewed passion. “Progress” was about to take on a whole new meaning for me.

What I learned from this experience, and you can too

I personally had not been rejected by the system. Much as it hurt when it happened, I came to realise that Life/Universe/________ was telling me – very loudly – that it was time to take radical responsibility for my desires and get on with what I really want to do in life.

socrates-building-the-newI have stories to tell, imbued with real life experience that I can share for others to heal, laugh, find inspiration and honour their truth as well. So for starters I poured my heart and soul into making my first book happen. I got the message, Universe. Thanks.

What we do in life need not be a linear process. We can integrate our passions and make a living that fills our hearts and our bank accounts if we so choose to receive. Start busting some of your own outdated paradigms.

Fine tuning our intuition is in high order for all of us, so we can be of better service to others… because we’re all in this together.

Saturn Return – I didn’t realise I was going through it until I was in the thick of it, and I felt like the player at the bottom of a rugby scrawl with everyone else piled over me, with no room to breathe.

Be kind to yourself especially in turbulent times. They will come to pass and you will have a stronger, clearer relationship with your identity as a result.

Sometimes we need to strip it all down so we can get a clear reminder of who we are at the core, and breathe new life into our existence.

Forgiveness of self opens new doors to healing – I had to stop playing the old stories in my mind and start forgiving myself for some of the choices I had made, so I could fully embrace a new way of being.

Live where I may live, Vancouver is my home.

I’m feeling this life-altering experience of four years ago the strongest today – knots in my stomach and all – because it took me this much, and planting the seed of pure intention with my book, to bring the last remnants of those emotions to the surface for me to clear. I am grateful for the laser awareness I have now.

The icing on the cake

You don’t need to go through Titanic moments to “wake up”, but if you do experience them… please remember you’re not alone. Ever. The reasons why may not always seem clear at the time, but Life really has your back and your best interests at heart.

And it’s full of beautiful surprises ready to bloom along the way.

Back to You,


Have you had a Titanic moment that turned your life around? Share what you learned from it below…

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This Change In Gears May Cause Miracles

This morning was exceptional. It was raining in LA, which means most people won’t drive and if they do it’s with greater levels of insecurity. I walked into my bank and the girl behind the counter, with whom I’ve had some great conversations lately, told me that on rainy days she either expects it to be really quiet, or it’s only the very important clients who make the effort to come in. I felt kinda special about that.

On my way home, I bumped into the homeless gentleman (because he is a gentleman) who hangs out by the CVS on Santa Monica Blvd & La Cienega and with whom I have fascinating conversations about life. We didn’t talk much as I was on my way back home for some conference calls, but he wouldn’t let me go without saying, “You are a very important person.”

I pondered the spectrum here – the banker with all the bills and the guy with a few cents in his plastic cup, both reflecting on my importance. Me? Hm. Okay… and thank you…

I’m clearly putting something out there… and I think I know what it comes down to… self worth.

I write this on Day 11 of Gabrielle Bernstein’s May Cause Miracles. I had the pleasure of meeting her at her LA book launch in the coolest yoga center I’ve been to so far. She clearly exudes her own worth – a loving, generous, tuned-in and very switched on human being whose presence imbues kick-ass goodness. And her book is a pure reflection of who she is and what she lives by.

(note to self: I think that’s my longest compliment to anyone, ever)

May Cause Miracles

Day 11 is about Self Gratitude. And boy am I grateful to be here, being me. And without a doubt that has inspired  a higher degree of worthiness in me as well.

After a few years of “deep sea diving” personal development and a slightly tumultuous (yet necessary) end to 2012, I finally realised it was time for another big life change. I have been asking for a new lifestyle, new friends, new clients and new readers, and they are all magically rolling in with a smile and lots of gratitude as well.

May Cause Miracles is providing me with a platform to take actionable steps on a daily basis that support this new life, which includes reading mornings and evenings (a wonderful habit I had let go of ‘because of work’ and now wholeheartedly diving into again).

I’m toning down some aspects of my life to turn up my abilities at a whole new level. Letting go of what does not serve me, so I can serve others better.

I look at this as if I were driving a car, and since I love Formula 1 racing, we can jazz up the visual. Think of the artfulness of changing gears and adeptly turning corners that their drivers display, slowing down and speeding up just at the right times.

Sometimes, we need to downshift for the next big turn in life, so we can step on the gas and go full speed ahead. With confidence. Knowing that every effort, moment, breath, heartbeat and hours of discipline we put into what we do are worth it. Because we are worth it, and we can all expect miracles.

How has changing gears affected your life? Post a comment below or on Facebook and share your insights for others to find inspiration.

Be grateful you’re on track, my friend.



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Just as I believe that we all can resolve to give our lives new meaning anywhere and anytime, I also believe in the collective energy that we all can benefit from on specific dates, like New Year. We gather to give ourselves the opportunity to effect obvious change in our lives, and to somehow hold one another accountable for these resolutions. They could be calls for help, simple affirmations or just seeking another check-in buddy for the sake of new perspectives.

I find it sad when certain people already give themselves a way out of New Year’s resolutions by stating, in the same sentence as the resolution itself, how they probably won’t make it and give up after 2 weeks.

Wow. Attitude check.

Last night, over dinner with friends, we didn’t talk about New Year’s Resolutions. Instead, we highlighted our best or favourite achievements of 2012. And before I could even say mine, someone I had already spoken to about it said, “Karin published her book!”

Oh ya, I did. And it feels so good!

The things is, I let go of making New Year’s resolutions a long time ago, mostly because I didn’t quite resonate with them. I seem to have a built-in mechanism that puts things into motion already in December, so that by the time January comes around things are already manifesting and working out in new and better ways. Sometimes it takes a little longer, sometimes it happens practically overnight. Either way, I’ve learned to trust the process.

Letting go of making New Year’s Resolutions did not, however, stop me from writing a story about it some time ago, which I have now refreshed a little and offer to you as a freebie to download. It is the story of Resolution’s New Year, written as a Greek tragedy of sorts, with a twist and a play on words, which is what I love to do.

Download your free copy of Resolution’s New Year

In fact, thinking of the word “resolution” this morning, I looked at one of its other definitions that some people seem to have forgotten…

When you separate the word, you get “re-solution.” A means of finding new solutions to an old issue or nagging feeling. Re-solve it, from a new angle. Maybe take a smaller step than the one so many others are taking because certain group consciousness has guided them towards making massive change that may be too steep for them to manage. Re-group your thoughts around this concept to make the most effective change for you.

I spent my weekend honing in on my core desired feelings via Danielle LaPorte’s The Desire Map. I highly recommend it if you’re not on board already. This will completely overhaul your sense of goal-setting, and bring you right back to the source of your desires, which is what allows us to make real impacting change going forward.

Resolutions, much like goals, can seem daunting at times. So this will help get you out of overwhelm and into heartfelt decision-making.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on what it means to you to make promises to yourself in the comments below. How do you keep your faith and see things through?

Wishing you the best days of your lives from here on,


All Rise

There’s a line in Robbie Williams’ “Let Me Entertain You” that I have resonated quite strongly with this past year. It goes like this:

I’m a burning effigy of everything I used to be…”

And so I am. And so it is. And here we are.

At any given moment, Life offers us the opportunity to majestically (and at times, somewhat painfully) wipe the slate clean in order to re-create everything from the ground up.

The other day I was telling myself, “I’m going all out, because I’m all in.” Some people found it very sexy (thanks, I guess it is). Now I understand better what I was telling myself.

So we’ll lovingly slam the old book closed together now, shall we?

Take old habits,
Unlearn them,
And burn them.

Tear it all down,
Bring doubt to a stop,
And build Yourself up.

Take a look around,
Start afresh, start anew,
There’s no one here… but You.

Teetering on the edge,
In between all the noises,
You welcome new choices.

“Maybe” becomes “Definitely.”
Definitely, enough of the old stories
But please do remember past glories

New souls show up,
Surprise You with decision,
Imbue Yours with new vision.

As You free Yourself,
The fire in Your heart roars,
Willing and ready for more.

And after the rain has fallen,
You take a new pen,
To map Your Desires again.

The closer you get to the fire, the stronger the heat and the higher the phoenix rises. It is known, it is given. It is Law. Notice that how you feel now is already different.

As the embers settle to an enjoyable warmth within, let me be the first to welcome You to your new Life, as I welcome myself to mine.

All rise,

Accidents Are NOT Karma Saying F*** You…

I write this as a tribute to anyone who has experienced severe wake up calls (referred to by some as ‘accidents’), and a gentle reminder that it’s okay. You’re more than okay. You’re clearing your path to new awareness and what you truly desire. Here’s my story:

I was in Vancouver enjoying a glorious April afternoon drive back from the North Shore to the West End in the passenger seat of a friend’s car. We were happily engaged in conversation coasting along Denman Street, when a car almost sideswiped us from an alley coming up to the light at Robson Street.

I couldn’t make out exactly how close he stopped by my side of the car, although the driver’s eyes were certainly within clear view.

My heart rate sped up a bit although I kept my cool (I only know one other person who would keep calm in a situation like that).

My friend’s temper rose as he hit the brakes and swore at the driver, while I took off my sunglasses, looked the man straight in the eyes, smiled, and cautioned with my hand as I mouthed, “Slow down.”

The man looked like he’d just received an intravenous injection of extra bold coffee. He seemed oblivious to the fact that he might just have hurt someone, and perhaps even himself.

My friend’s temper waned a few blocks after we drove off. I wondered what our respective wake up calls were, as I thanked the Universe for protecting us all from physical harm.

It’s easy to think someone is at fault and point the finger. But the truth is…

Accidents are no accident.

They are wake up calls from our subconscious mind. It’s up to us to uncover what each one is for us, and then clear our patterns or limiting beliefs so we are free of ‘road blocks,’ which is what these situations usually represent.

I took this incident as an opportunity to be more alert to my surroundings, and a reminder of how well protected I am. Thank you, thank you, thank you, Guardian Angels.

Now, it’s okay to freak out if something happens, and release the nervous energies that may come up. Remember this is happening through you, not to you. So allow yourself to move through it.

What happened ‘to’ you does not define you. It’s an experience you went through, it’s not your identity. Turn your past into a classroom. – Robert Holden

While you take a moment to relax and gather yourself, trust that you’ve given yourself an opportunity to let go of old fears and inhibitions.

Your natural, old reactions may be to hunker down and feed the fear. You might want beat yourself up over something. Not feel good enough. Think karma’s a bitch, and you’re getting paid back for something you did. Give a ‘valid’ reason not to show up for yourself in new ways…

Stop. Change gears.

Spare yourself the adrenaline rush of dramatic situations.

Yes, we get what we think of most of the time.

Yes, thought is cause and outcome is effect (aka ‘karma‘) – now you can stop feeling like you may have brought something negative onto yourself, engage new thoughts and bring something new to the table for you to enjoy.

You’re alive. You’re awake. You can find new awareness in healthier ways, can’t you?

Of course you can…

How are you choosing to release yourself now from the blocks of the past, and move forward consciously, with safety and ease?

Green light. Move along now, with ease and awareness.

Cupcakes, anyone?