We make them every second of every day and sleeping moment.
Have coffee. Walk dog. Write email. Call person. Buy thing. Meet friend. Expand business offering. Launch dream. Red or white wine… Or apple juice?
I do like to bounce some of my ideas around with my trusted advisors. I now also recognise more easily when I’m using that as an excuse to lean on someone else to make a decision. And sometimes, their insights do offer me just the ‘aha’ moment I require (it usually comes in the form of a loving kick up the *** – thanks guys & girls).
What happens when you stall on your own decisions to satisfy your need for external approval?
Answer: not very much (you generally feed the doubt even more).
It takes a village to decide on a new set of lampposts – there may be 12 to choose from.
It takes a (larger) village to choose a leader – to tell millions of differing minds what’s best for them (whoa, easy now).
It takes YOU to choose how to lead your life – because deep inside you know what’s best for you. Right?
If your gut says “Yes” but you’re over thinking stuff and asking ten people (or Google search) to give you their “Yes” on your own life choices… then who’s really leading your life?
Remember, their values may not always reflect yours. Lead consciously and with transparency.
When I notice that I’m stalling, I have to check in with myself. Have I been waiting on someone else to give me enough votes in favour or against, so I can finally give myself permission to embrace my own decision and run with it?
When the tally for the votes comes in… am I really making my own decision based on those results?
It comes down to sense of self.
Are you looking to find your sense of leadership in leaders… or followers?
There may be no one else in your immediate environment who is consciously engaged to step up their own game. You’ll have to figure some of it out while you become the leader.
It will require conscious leaps of faith while observing those who are leading, wherever they are.
Do what your gut tells you to do – for You.
You, standing by You. Awesome.
If anyone asks what you’re doing – show them, don’t tell them. Some of them may not understand, and that’s okay. Keep at it.
We’re here telling you what works for us, based on what we know and our results.
They’re your dreams and your desires and we can’t tell you how to shape them. We can encourage you to believe in them, and to believe in You.
That’s really what you’re looking for, isn’t it?
The details are mere excuses to cover up the real motivation behind the asking, “Am I good enough for this? Can I do it?”
Answer: Yes you are. Yes you can.
We’ve even got the fireworks ready.
Step it up. Know that you’re worth it. This may rattle their cages and push their buttons; it will help you break through yours. You’ll be amazed at your own results.
Own your decisions, because you’re the one who sleeps with them. Change your strategy as you go along, as you require. And you’ll see how much more you’ve won as a result.
Did you notice that “own” and “won” contain the same letters?
Hot dang, you’re good…
“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve,” Napoleon Hill