Why Most People Don’t Make It

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I was talking to someone about my dreams, specifically how I’m putting my creativity to use for the greater awareness of others.

“It’s hard to break through. Not everybody makes it,” he replied.

This is true of most anything. And while everyone else is writing about productivity hacks, life hacks, and discipline, here’s the caveat…

This is true because most people will tell you that not everybody makes it. Which means that by sheer numbers and mental programming, not everybody makes it.

I’ll repeat — not everybody makes it because most people think that they won’t make it.

Having been conditioned to believe that not everybody makes it, most people don’t. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. The result is that most people are quick to tell you that not everybody makes it. Although plenty of those people will have never bothered to start something, or they got discouraged fast.

Why?

Because… they believe that not everybody makes it!

You see the irony? You see the pattern?

That’s what they’re telling themselves, so they don’t start. And when you start or you’re suffering in the thick of making it, they’ll remind you of this with a friendly pat on the shoulders, “Not everybody makes it,” quite often leaving you speechless and feeling unsupported.

The best thing you can do for yourself and ANYONE that comes to you with their dreams in the palms of their hands seeking help, affirmation, guidance or inspiration is this…

Do NOT, under any circumstances, speak the words “Not everybody makes it.”

That’s how dreams are steamrolled and why people live like zombies, or go to the movies wanting a quick fix to satisfy their longing for dreams to come true by living vicariously through somebody else’s story. Nothing wrong with movies, but we get a momentary emotional high that often replaces our own efforts to live out our own dreams.

I’m not asking you to coddle people, but reality only truly changes through our perception of it.

So, what if we told ourselves and each other this instead:

“You can make it. What can I do to help?”

It may mean rolling up your sleeves to do something about it. It can also look like connecting someone who can help, or sharing what someone is up to with other people, or taking a leap and investing in that person’s dream if it speaks to you, or simply getting curious about it (you may surprise yourself with this one). What inspired that person to create this? What drives them to do this?

This is how any movement or anything you see, hear, or have access to today was ever started. By someone taking an interest in somebody’s vision or dream and actively spurring them on.

And this — strategies, talent, discipline and skills aside — is how dreams really do come true.

It starts with how you think about them, and how you speak with others about theirs. A nourishing mentality that permeates the actions that follow.

I can’t tell you what to think, although I can point these things out for you to consider.

So. Will you choose to make it?